To My Mom Friends,
I understand that your life is overflowing with responsibilities. Being a mom has transformed your world in profound ways, and it’s all too easy to feel like you’re falling short. But let me be clear—you don’t need to feel guilty about me. I cherish our friendship too much to add to your burdens.
I hear the apologies when your little one interrupts our chat for the umpteenth time, or when your toddler suddenly declares a potty emergency. I see the guilt on your face when your baby starts fussing yet again, and I know you wonder if I’m growing impatient while you handle bedtime routines. You may feel bad about taking ages to respond to my messages, and I get it because I’ve heard you say so.
But here’s the truth: there’s no need to apologize.
Your children are simply being children. Babies cry, toddlers have accidents, and kids are naturally rambunctious. That’s just part of life.
As your friend, I want to be part of your journey. Your kids are a significant part of your life now, and that means they’re a part of my life too. Whether we were reminiscing about sleepovers and movie nights or discussing politics over wine and cheese, I’m still your friend now that your focus has shifted. Even if we met after you became a mom, your experiences and challenges matter to me.
Friendship is about navigating life together, and yes, that sometimes includes dealing with spit-up, tantrums, and the occasional mess. I’m completely fine with our hangouts now revolving around your home or the playground, navigating interruptions as your kids play.
Give yourself some grace. You don’t need to have everything figured out! It’s perfectly normal that your kids aren’t always well-behaved. It’s fine if there are toys scattered everywhere and laundry left undone. I’m even happy to entertain your kids or help tidy up. After all, we used to help each other with everything from homework to holiday shopping—why would it be any different now? Plus, it’s good practice for when I have kids of my own someday.
I’ve never expected perfection from you, and I don’t expect it now. I embrace the chaos, just as you should. My life may not involve diaper changes, but it’s chaotic in its own right.
I love you and genuinely care about your life, even if it looks different from mine. Let’s continue to journey through life together, no matter how it unfolds at this moment.
So, my dear friend, you don’t owe me an apology. The only thing I hope for is that you check in on me just as I do for you. And if our conversations get interrupted by your adorable little ones, that’s completely acceptable.
With love,
Your Childless Friend
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In summary, this letter emphasizes that friendships evolve and that there’s no need for guilt when balancing motherhood and relationships. It reassures mothers that their friends are there to support them through the chaos of parenting without judgment.
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