The young boy nestled in the back of my minivan pleaded with his mom to let him come over to play, exclaiming, “They have an XBox!” His mother chuckled, politely declining — for now — while I couldn’t help but smile. My grand plan is in motion.
When kids come to my house these days, they’re greeted with the chance to dive into games like Minecraft or Lego Star Wars in the playroom, often for hours. If the weather is nice, I encourage them to go outside, where they can leap off the deck steps attempting parkour or take a sled down the slide of our playset. When they ask for snacks or juice, my answer is always a cheerful yes. I tune out the potty humor, the playful teasing, and the frequent use of the word “booger.”
Of course, there are some ground rules. My son knows to take off his glasses during pillow fights with the couch cushions, and everyone understands that my 2-year-old daughter is off-limits for roughhousing. Nerf guns? Those are strictly for targeting inanimate objects, not people or pets. Above all, kindness is a must.
As my daughter gets older and begins to invite her friends over, I’ll introduce them to her castle play tent filled with Barbies, American Girl dolls, or superheroes, depending on their interests. The kinetic sand will always be in abundance, and I’ll happily indulge the whims of young girls who want to play with makeup or belt out tunes on a karaoke machine. Unkind behavior will not be tolerated.
Creating a Safe and Enjoyable Environment
So why am I so open to having kids over? It’s not about being permissive; it’s about creating a safe, enjoyable environment within certain boundaries. While there are video games like Minecraft, there’s no room for violent games like Call of Duty. I allow two-player games where I can hear collaboration and dialogue, but passive movie-watching is a no-go. The snacks are mostly healthy, with the occasional treat like Hershey’s kisses or microwave popcorn. My goal is to cultivate a joyful space, not a chaotic free-for-all.
Why do I want to attract a crowd of kids? Because one day, these little ones will grow into teenagers, eager to explore their newfound freedom. They’ll want to express themselves, swear, listen to their music, and enjoy snacks between meals. I want them to feel welcome to do all that here, and I’m laying the groundwork now, ready to adapt as they grow. I envision a future filled with gaming consoles, a big TV, a pool table, and even space for a band setup. They’ll eventually explore a computer — with parental controls, naturally — that they understand and accept.
There will still be rules, but they’ll be reasonable. They can enjoy games like Madden but not Grand Theft Auto. Music will be welcomed, but I’ll also engage them in conversations about the lyrics and the artists behind them. The same goes for movies and internet use. They can have snacks, but they’ll have to grab them themselves and clean up afterward. I’ll allow them to use strong language, but any form of hate speech will not be tolerated; you can bet I’ll take the time to educate them on why those words are harmful. That behavior simply won’t fly in my home.
Open Communication and Trust
I’m even willing to keep essentials like birth control in the house, with transparency around its presence. I won’t pry into their lives, but I want them to know they can access what they need. I believe in the importance of safe sex practices for teens.
I won’t act as a full-on informant to other parents, but I also won’t shield secrets that ought to be shared. Any kid who steps foot in my house will know that I value honesty and safety.
I want my children — and yours — close by because I can provide a safe haven for them. Part of that involves giving them a bit of freedom so they can appreciate the boundaries that remain in place. I understand some parents may not be comfortable with a space where pizza is unlimited and strong language is allowed, but those are the gifts I offer to the kids in exchange for their trust in my home.
Further Reading
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In summary, my intention is to create a welcoming, safe space for children to grow, explore, and enjoy their freedom while still upholding values of kindness and respect.
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