As we step into the park, your little one points toward my daughter, exclaiming loudly, “Mom, look at her!” I see you quickly hush him, ushering him away as if his curiosity is something to be ashamed of.
Later, while we’re both in the grocery store, your child spots my baby in the cart and asks, “Why does that baby look like that?” You instinctively cover his mouth, hurrying down the aisle, eyes darting, avoiding any further questions.
At the library, your children freeze, staring in awe at my daughter. I can see your unease as you try to distract them, redirecting their attention elsewhere. This scenario plays out almost daily, and I’m all too familiar with the whispers and the stares.
I want you to know that I hear you, I see you, and I can feel the struggle in your heart. But when you try to shield me from these moments, it creates a divide that feels insurmountable. As parents, we both strive to do our best for our children, and that includes fostering understanding and compassion.
What I wish is that you would engage in these conversations openly. Instead of avoiding our family, I hope you’ll bridge that gap by approaching us just like you would any other family at the park.
When your child points and says, “Look at that girl!” I wish you would respond positively: “Yes, look at her! She seems to be having a great time, just like you!” If your child inquires about my daughter’s appearance, I hope you would answer with honesty: “I’m not sure why she looks that way, but remember, everyone is different and that’s what makes us unique.”
Encourage your child to say hello and ask for my kids’ names. If your little one says something inappropriate in front of us, don’t shy away—apologize sincerely: “I’m sorry. We’re learning how to ask questions kindly.” It helps if you add, “Your daughter is adorable! How old is she?”
Above all, I wish you would talk about differences more frequently with your child. Reading to them about diversity, discussing everything from disabilities to cultural variations, can help them understand and appreciate the beauty in our differences. When they have questions, encourage them to come to you privately, so they don’t unintentionally hurt someone’s feelings.
Instead of avoiding our family as if we are a source of fear, I hope you’ll see us as an opportunity. By fostering a respectful and appreciative attitude towards physical differences, you’re teaching your child invaluable lessons about empathy and kindness.
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In summary, let’s work together to create a more inclusive environment for our children. By embracing conversations about differences, we can foster understanding and respect, making our community a better place for everyone.
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