Seize the Day, Release Regrets
My mom struggled with guilt and sorrow over time she felt she had squandered. She often expressed a desire to have been more present when my sister and I were younger. I wish she could have seen how involved she could still be in our lives, especially with her grandchildren. Determined not to carry the same burden of regret, I focus on making the most out of the time I have with my daughters. I strive to be intentional about our moments together, ensuring we share plenty of hugs and loving words.
We only have a limited time—about 18 years—before our kids transition into adulthood. I refuse to waste that precious time. But I also recognize that I am only human. On days when my energy or mood is off, I might not be the best version of myself. I’ve made mistakes, and I will continue to do so, but I choose to forgive myself and learn from those experiences instead of dwelling on them.
Leave Messages of Love
One of the hardest aspects of my mom’s passing was that she left no note, no farewell, and no words to remember her by. Memories can fade, and photographs capture only snippets of time. I yearn for her words, her encouragement, and her voice. Though I can’t have those keepsakes, I can create them for my daughters. I’ve started a journal for each of them, where I write heartfelt messages every few months. These letters express my unwavering love and hopes for their future. When I’m gone, they will know just how cherished they are.
Recognize Your Own Beauty
My mother often pointed out her perceived flaws—her skin, her weight, her hair. To me, she was the epitome of beauty. I know many of us feel this way about our moms, and our children likely see us in the same light. My preschooler loves to dress me up in headbands and tiaras, exclaiming, “Mommy, you look so beautiful!” It’s crucial that I embrace and accept this, even when my own insecurities kick in.
I want to teach my daughters to recognize their unique beauty, talents, passions, and strengths. I won’t shy away from silly photos, dressing up, or wearing a swimsuit due to self-doubt. Too many precious memories are at stake.
Prioritize Yourself
My mom was selfless to a fault, always giving even to strangers, often at the expense of her own well-being. While not everyone faces the challenges my mother did, we all risk becoming overwhelmed and stressed due to neglecting our health. I refuse to let poor health choices rob me of my most important role as a mother. I focus on nutritious eating, regular exercise, and carving out time for myself. Pursuing my passions and nurturing friendships helps me be a better wife, mom, and individual.
I hope no one else has to endure the grief I’ve experienced from my mother’s death. However, I aim to uplift and inspire other moms by sharing the lessons I’ve learned from this tragedy. For those seeking additional resources, you can check out this excellent guide on IVF or consider exploring CryoBaby’s at-home insemination kits to support your parenting journey. Additionally, you may find insightful articles on Cervical Insemination that resonate with your experience.
In summary, while my mother’s passing brought immense sorrow, it has also granted me invaluable lessons that shape my approach to motherhood. Embracing the present, leaving messages of love, recognizing beauty, and prioritizing my well-being are all crucial in my journey as a parent.
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