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Divorce can shake the very foundations of our beliefs and experiences, especially when it comes to sex and dating. Growing up in a liberal household yet surrounded by conservative peers, I internalized a complex view of intimacy. In high school, the idea of premarital sex was taboo, serving as a form of unintended birth control. College, however, unleashed a world of possibilities, and I held out for what I deemed the right partner.
That partner surfaced during my junior year—a guy named Jake. Sharing that news with my mom was a highlight of my youth, and I’ve never looked back with regret. Post-divorce, however, I find myself re-evaluating my perspective on sex and relationships, reminiscent of the uncertain days of my freshman year.
Here are a few insights I’ve gathered in my re-entry into the dating scene:
- Moms Can Be Attractive
I assumed that once I became a mom, my dating life would dwindle. To my surprise, many men appreciate the depth and responsibility that come with motherhood. It turns out that they often relate to the challenges of balancing family life and personal desires. I’ve encountered younger men who actively pursue single moms, which has been an eye-opener. - Sexting Is Commonplace
I’ve come to realize that many couples engage in sexting, a practice that has seemingly exploded in popularity. My initial foray into this world was exhilarating, even when I was alone. However, it comes with risks, especially when sharing intimate images. Trust is paramount, and I’ve learned that the thrill can wear off quickly—after all, how many ways can one describe the same actions? While it can be exciting, nothing truly replaces physical touch, yet many men seem eager to connect this way. - Keep an Open Mind
Previously, I had a checklist for the ideal partner—traits that I thought were crucial. After my marriage didn’t pan out as expected, I’ve become more flexible. I’m learning to look past superficial attributes like political beliefs or educational backgrounds. Age has granted me wisdom, allowing me to value emotional connections over rigid expectations. For example, I still appreciate a well-educated partner, but I’m also aware that poor grammar in texts can be a turn-off. - Avoid Married Men
I often find myself glancing for wedding rings when meeting new men. Flirting is natural, but I’ve noticed that some married men find divorced women appealing. Personally, I see no benefit in engaging with them and strongly advise against it. Interestingly, I’ve found that married women tend to distance themselves from me, perhaps fearing that divorce is contagious. - Embrace Your Body
While at the gym recently, I saw young women critiquing their bodies, and it made me reflect on my own past insecurities. Having birthed three children and undergone two C-sections, I’ve learned to appreciate my body’s journey. My children affectionately poke at my belly, but they don’t realize the softening of my heart that has occurred alongside these changes. I refuse to apologize for my appearance when I choose to share it with someone special.
The divorce process was challenging, and there were days when I doubted my ability to move forward. Now, a year and a half later, I feel a renewed sense of hope. The future no longer intimidates me. Love and companionship exist even after a marriage ends. It’s a journey of self-discovery, and I’m embracing it.
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In summary, post-divorce dating and intimacy require a fresh perspective. Embracing your identity, being open to new connections, and loving your body are essential parts of the journey.
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