In today’s digital age, technology shaming has become a trendy topic among mothers. If you’re at the playground scrolling through your phone? You’re doing it all wrong. Engaging with social media while your kids are awake? You’re practically the worst mom imaginable. A recent viral post has added fuel to the fire, suggesting we should feel guilty if we don’t meet our child’s gaze every time they try to make eye contact.
A mom from California recently conducted an “experiment” while observing her twin sons play. She meticulously tracked how often they looked at her for approval or to share their little victories. Her conclusion was that if she had been absorbed in social media instead of watching them, her children would feel “emotionally alone.” This post has since been shared nearly 60,000 times, with captions like, “Moms, put down your phones and pick up your babies.”
Honestly, it’s hard not to roll your eyes. While the underlying message is that we should strive for balance in our lives, it’s frustrating how these well-meaning reminders can easily morph into judgmental statements about other moms.
I personally set a goal to read 30 classic novels this year, and I’m navigating that journey through the Kindle app on my phone. Additionally, my phone serves as my primary means of communication with family, friends, and even my job, which is based online. Living in Nebraska while writing for publications in New York City means my online presence is essential for supporting my family and covering our bills.
Many moms utilize their devices for important tasks, yet the narrative surrounding technology often leads to a shame spiral, pitting moms who occasionally check their phones against those who dedicate every moment to their children. Let’s consider that maybe mom needs to jot down a grocery list, respond to an email, or even connect with a friend. Perhaps she’s reading something profound or is managing postpartum depression, and those few minutes of scrolling are a lifeline. Why should we judge?
“Balance” is subjective and varies from one mom to another based on their unique circumstances. The last thing we need is to pile on another layer of guilt for not devoting every waking second to our children.
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In summary, while striving for a healthy balance in our lives is crucial, let’s remember that technology can serve meaningful purposes for many moms. Instead of shaming each other, let’s support one another in our diverse parenting journeys.
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