Three years ago, my life took an unexpected turn as I transitioned from a dedicated scientist and full-time mom to a breast cancer patient in what felt like the blink of an eye. The journey through chemotherapy and a double mastectomy with reconstruction brought pivotal lessons that no medical professional could ever teach. If I could revisit my newly diagnosed self, here’s what I would share:
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Modesty? What’s That?
You’ll quickly shed any lingering sense of modesty. While I’ve never participated in a flash mob, I’ve certainly flashed enough medical professionals and friends to form one! Since my diagnosis, I’ve shared my body’s changes with over 100 people (yes, I actually kept track). From the peculiar port implanted under my skin to scars and drains, I learned that vulnerability becomes a part of the process. -
Love Surrounds You
You’ll be astonished by the outpouring of love and support. Family, old friends, and even acquaintances will come together to lift you up. Expect meals, childcare offers, and little surprises like cupcakes and heartfelt notes. Your friends will embrace opportunities to accompany you to lengthy chemotherapy sessions. You might find a pair of cute flats waiting for you at home, a thoughtful gesture from your mom who understands your love for shoes. Gratitude will fill your heart. -
Breast Cancer is Everywhere
Just like when you were pregnant and noticed other expectant mothers, you’ll suddenly see breast cancer narratives everywhere. Especially when diagnosed in October, the month dedicated to breast cancer awareness, the pink ribbons will seem omnipresent. Grocery store clerks will ask if you’d like to donate, and while you might want to say, “Oh, I already contributed,” you’ll likely just smile and politely decline. -
Immediate Reconstruction is a Misnomer
You may think that “immediate reconstruction” means instant results, but it actually refers to a process that begins during the mastectomy and may require additional surgeries in the months to come. It’s a journey, not an instant fix. -
A New Perspective on Breasts
After undergoing breast surgeries, your perception of what “normal” breasts look like will shift dramatically. You might find yourself evaluating other women’s breasts, hoping they don’t catch you doing it! -
Conversations Shift
You’ll discover that discussions about drains, mouth sores, and nipple tattoos become commonplace. Much like new moms bond over parenting challenges, you’ll find an instant connection with fellow breast cancer patients. These topics can pop up anywhere, from casual chats with neighbors to conversations with your dental hygienist. -
Pictures Matter
You’ll wish you had captured more moments. Reflecting on photographs can be a powerful reminder of your journey and the love that surrounds you. Smiling with family and friends in pictures will affirm how far you’ve come. -
Understanding the Loss
You might not realize how significant your breasts were until after they’re gone, even if their primary function was no longer breastfeeding. When your surgeon mentions the loss of sensation, you might nod in agreement, aiming to eliminate cancer. However, the emotional impact of losing touch—feeling the gentle caress of a loved one—can be unexpectedly profound. -
Goodbye, Bras!
You may initially think you’ll still need a bra, but you’ll quickly adapt to going braless. Your friends will likely encourage you to try every strapless and backless top available, and you’ll rock them with confidence! -
Every Ache is a Red Flag
You may find yourself overthinking every little pain, convinced it’s a sign of cancer’s return. A headache? Must be cancer. A sore hip? Cancer. It’s a mental adjustment, but eventually, you’ll surprise yourself by going an entire day without cancer on your mind.
The most sobering realization is that about 30% of women diagnosed with breast cancer may face a metastatic recurrence that can lead to their untimely deaths. While progress in treatment continues, organizations like the American Cancer Society report that approximately 108 women still lose their lives to breast cancer daily. Understanding both the personal and scientific aspects of this disease is crucial, particularly as those with metastatic conditions rely on ongoing medical breakthroughs for hope.
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In summary, navigating breast cancer is a transformative experience filled with unexpected lessons and insights about love, vulnerability, and resilience.
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