Reasons Why I Chose Donor Eggs and Never Looked Back
For many couples struggling with infertility, the journey to parenthood can be a long and emotionally taxing one. After trying for years to conceive naturally and exploring various fertility treatments, my husband and I were faced with the difficult decision of using donor eggs to build our family. It was not an easy choice, but looking back, it was the best decision we ever made. In this blog post, I will share the reasons why I chose donor eggs and why I have never looked back.
1. Age-related infertility
One of the main reasons why we chose donor eggs was due to my age-related infertility. As a woman in my late 30s, my ovarian reserve was diminishing, making it difficult for me to conceive with my own eggs. After multiple failed attempts with IVF using my own eggs, our fertility doctor suggested donor eggs as a viable option. At first, I was hesitant and had many doubts, but after doing my research and talking to other women who had gone through the same process, I became more open to the idea.
2. High success rates
One of the biggest advantages of using donor eggs is the high success rates compared to other fertility treatments. According to the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology, the success rates for donor egg IVF cycles are significantly higher than for cycles using the woman’s own eggs. This was a major factor in our decision, as we didn’t want to go through the emotional and physical toll of multiple failed attempts. With donor eggs, we had a better chance of achieving a successful pregnancy and building our family.
3. Elimination of genetic concerns
Another factor that played a role in our decision was the elimination of any genetic concerns. My husband and I both have a family history of genetic disorders, and we didn’t want to take the risk of passing them on to our child. With donor eggs, we were able to choose a young and healthy donor, reducing the chances of any genetic disorders being passed on to our child.
4. Emotional detachment
Reasons Why I Chose Donor Eggs and Never Looked Back
One of the biggest challenges of going through fertility treatments is the emotional toll it takes on a couple. With donor eggs, we were able to detach ourselves emotionally from the process. As much as we wanted a biological connection to our child, we also knew that the love and bond we would have with our child would be just as strong. This detachment allowed us to focus on the practical aspects of building our family and reduced the stress and anxiety that often comes with trying to conceive.
5. No more waiting
One of the most frustrating aspects of dealing with infertility is the constant waiting. Waiting for ovulation, waiting for test results, waiting for a positive pregnancy test. With donor eggs, the waiting was significantly reduced. We were able to move forward with the egg donor and IVF process much quicker than with other fertility treatments. This was a relief for us as we had already been waiting for so long to start a family.
6. Shared genetics with my husband
One of the biggest concerns I had about using donor eggs was not having a biological connection to my child. However, one aspect that I found comforting was that my husband would still have a genetic connection to our child. This was important to us as we wanted our child to have a genetic link to both of us. With donor eggs, we were able to create a child that was biologically connected to my husband, and that brought us a sense of peace and comfort.
7. Greater control over the pregnancy
Using donor eggs also gave me more control over the pregnancy. As the intended mother, I was able to carry the pregnancy and experience all the physical and emotional aspects of pregnancy. This was something that was important to me, as I had always dreamed of carrying my own child. With donor eggs, I was able to do just that.
In summary, our journey to parenthood was not an easy one, but choosing donor eggs was the best decision we ever made. It allowed us to overcome age-related infertility, have a greater chance of success, eliminate genetic concerns, detach ourselves emotionally, reduce waiting time, have a shared genetic connection with my husband, and have more control over the pregnancy. We are now proud parents to a beautiful child, and we have never looked back on our decision to use donor eggs.
In conclusion, for couples struggling with infertility, donor eggs can be a viable option to consider. It is a personal decision that should be made after careful consideration and research, but for us, it was the right choice. If you are facing a similar situation, I hope our story and our reasons for choosing donor eggs can help you in your decision-making process.