The first time I glimpsed my baby’s heartbeat—a flicker on a monochrome screen—I was struck by the reality of life. A heartbeat signifies existence; it’s as simple as that.
In the years that have since unfolded, my husband and I often felt like we were merely existing—shuttling our kids around, wrangling homework battles, ensuring everyone was fed and clothed, and squeezing in our jobs. Yet the kids? They were vibrantly alive. They stood up against unfairness, laughed until tears streamed down their cheeks, and wrestled each other, leaving imprints of the playroom carpet on their scraped knees. Their secrets and confessions flowed freely. They were constant sources of wonder and amazement, embodying the essence of childhood.
Our youngest son has always been a whirlwind of energy. His grandfather often jokes, “Where’s the off switch?” as he playfully tickles him, searching for that elusive button beneath a tiny striped shirt. Fast forward to now, and that little boy is a strapping 14-year-old who walks with an air of confidence, those charming dimples and athletic build making quite the impression. As we sit in the cardiologist’s office—where they are taking his blood pressure “just to see,” running an EKG “just to see,” and performing a sonogram “just to see”—I can’t help but marvel at this powerful young man.
In a dark room, the screen lights up, revealing his heart in vivid color. I watch as blood flows rhythmically, the valves flapping like tiny flags caught in a breeze. It’s hard to reconcile this robust boy with the notion that it all comes down to this simple organ.
Just days before, we visited my grandmother in a nursing home. This year, she recognized me but waved off my husband with indifference. After sharing some family gossip in the community room (some of it true), we wheeled her back to her semi-private room. Her roommate lay in bed, seemingly oblivious, a mere shadow of a woman. We brought my grandmother some ice water and, as gently as possible, sidestepped her casual nudges to take her out for lunch or a stroll, all the while wishing we could find that proverbial off switch.
After the sonogram, the doctor assures us that my son’s heart is perfect. I silently agree; he’s the best hugger in our family, always the first to notice when someone needs a comforting embrace. He competes fiercely but shows compassion, embodying the strength and tenderness that we hope to see in young boys—and ultimately, in men.
I know the doctor is referring strictly to the heart as an organ, doing its job. But I can’t help but feel there’s more to it—more than just a little flapping tissue inside this boy, or my grandmother’s roommate, or even me. There has to be.
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Summary
The piece reflects on the profound experiences of parenting, intertwining personal anecdotes about a child’s heartbeat with deeper reflections on life, love, and connection. It underscores the importance of recognizing the multifaceted nature of existence beyond mere biological functions.
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