In many respects, my 4-year-old son is just like any other child: he delights in running around, enjoys playful tickle fights, loves dancing to music, and is always eager for a good bedtime story. However, his autism makes his experience quite different from that of his peers. The journey of raising a nonverbal child presents its own set of challenges—many of which stem from misconceptions held by those around him. Too often, people mistakenly assume that his inability to speak diminishes his worth. Here are five crucial points I wish everyone could grasp about my son:
1. His Silence Doesn’t Imply Ignorance
Just because he doesn’t talk doesn’t mean he can’t hear or understand. There are two types of language skills: expressive and receptive. We’ve had his hearing assessed, and his receptive language abilities are at least normal in one ear. I often forget this myself, and I suspect that if he ever starts speaking, his first words might be the colorful language he hears from me during car rides. Please, engage him as you would any other child—using respectful language and avoiding baby talk. He knows when people underestimate him, and he’s quite perceptive about it.
2. He Has a Unique Sense of Humor
In fact, he’s quite the little jokester. His grasp of sarcasm is impressive for a 4-year-old. If I compliment someone, he’ll chuckle and shake his head. One of his favorite antics is pointing to the wrong object when asked to touch something specific. During speech therapy, he’s been known to lean back, staring at the clock, as if he’s counting down the minutes. Once, he playfully pretended to give the speech therapist a high five, only to run his hand through his hair instead, to his own amusement. During an evaluation at a renowned autism clinic, he cleverly pretended a puzzle didn’t exist the moment the doctor turned around. If he could whistle while looking around innocently, he would!
3. Not Every Autistic Child is a Genius
While I appreciate your reference to “Rain Man,” it’s important to recognize that not all autism manifests the same way. He won’t be counting toothpicks or composing symphonies on his toy piano. His brain may be wired differently, but that doesn’t come with magical talents. And even if it did, I wouldn’t want him to perform like a circus act.
4. He’s a Master of Reading People
He has an uncanny ability to size up a room and figure out who to charm. My son knows how to navigate his environment and often finds the easiest route to his desires by getting others to do the legwork for him. He’s played adults—teachers, therapists, and family members—like a pro. His cuteness makes it difficult to resist his charms, but let me clarify—no, I don’t just sit around holding him all day. He’s a lively, 45-pound ball of energy!
5. His Worth Goes Beyond His Disability
It’s easy to see a child who appears disengaged or flaps his hands, but he is so much more than that. He is a lively little boy who simply faces challenges in communication. Don’t underestimate him; every individual deserves respect, and you’d be missing out on connecting with a truly remarkable kid.
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In summary, understanding my nonverbal child goes beyond his silence. He is a vibrant little boy with his own personality, humor, and the ability to connect—if only others took the time to truly see him.
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