Dear New Parent,
Welcome to the incredible journey of parenthood! Congratulations on your precious little one! Since the announcement of your pregnancy, you’ve likely been inundated with a plethora of advice—some of it useful, some questionable, and a few pieces that are downright bizarre. While you might feel tempted to nod along and brush off most of what you hear, I want to emphasize a crucial piece of guidance that can truly impact your well-being in the coming weeks:
It’s perfectly okay to say “no.”
The initial weeks of motherhood can be a whirlwind—don’t fret, this is entirely normal. Your life has changed in the most beautiful way, but it often comes with exhaustion and anxiety. For a time, your world might feel like it revolves solely around caring for your baby, and that’s absolutely fine. During these early days, people understand. Neighbors might drop off homemade meals, relatives may help with chores, and friends will likely insist on holding the baby so you can grab a much-needed nap. Trust me, enjoy this time—though challenging, if you have a supportive network, you can take a breather and prioritize what truly matters.
However, as your baby approaches the one-month milestone, you might notice a shift—not in your baby, who is likely still adhering to their eat, sleep, and diaper routine, but in how others perceive your new life. To those without kids, a month may seem like an eternity. They might think it’s time for you to dive back into your pre-baby commitments, which can feel overwhelming.
Sure, last year you baked dozens of cookies for the charity bake sale, but this year, even making it to the store seems like a monumental task. It’s okay to just say “no.”
You might have organized your cousin’s bridal shower last fall, but now you can barely sort through your laundry, let alone plan an event for thirty guests. It’s okay to just say “no.”
And yes, catching up with your college friends over lunch sounds delightful, but you’re concerned about exposing your baby to germs, and the chosen venue lacks space for your car seat. It’s okay to just say “no.”
You have every right to decline invitations or requests because it’s nap time, because you’re simply worn out, or because you feel overwhelmed. If your baby struggles during the afternoons, or if you want to savor every moment before returning to work, it’s perfectly acceptable to prioritize your family and your needs.
Whether you express your “no” gently or with conviction, just remember this: don’t agree to something when your heart says “no.”
Motherhood is a demanding journey, especially in those early days. Do not feel guilty for prioritizing your baby, yourself, and your family. Eventually, as time passes, you’ll find yourself saying “yes” more often, and the moments you agree to will far exceed those you declined.
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In summary, embrace your right to say “no” during this transformative time. Your well-being and the health of your family should always come first.
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