Why We Embraced Our Messy Yard

In the heat of summer, I often find myself assuring my three boys that swallowing watermelon seeds won’t result in them having watermelon babies. While I lounge in a hammock dreaming of cooler climates, they’re busy diving for oversized coins in our delightfully rustic above-ground pool, clad only in their underwear because, once again, they misplaced their swimsuits—most likely buried under a pile of debris in our yard. The dog, ever the explorer, might have dragged them off or perhaps they’re just hidden under a towel in the guest bathroom. As I swat at mosquitoes—or douse myself in bug spray—I find myself yelling for what feels like the millionth time, urging them not to splash me or their younger sibling. Then they leap out, hollering for towels, and race around the yard, still in their underwear.

Summer Equals Chaos

Summer wouldn’t feel right if our yard weren’t a complete disaster. Although we live in a region where July temperatures can reach the high hundreds, our children thrive outdoors. We limit their screen time, and between the trampoline, pool, and an impressive play structure, they have plenty to keep them engaged. Yet, despite these amenities, they seem to prefer creating their own entertainment—by wreaking havoc on our yard.

The Grass Dilemma

When we eventually sell our house, we’ll likely need to invest a small fortune in new grass. Our yard has transformed into a sandy wasteland thanks to three kids and three dogs. The periphery of our lot is lined with trees, serving as makeshift forts and hiding spots. Attempts at maintaining potted plants have failed due to my husband’s mischievous dog, a mix of Shepherd and terrier, who delights in uprooting them. So, we’ve settled for a lot of dirt—really sandy dirt that’s super easy to dig up.

Our large German Shepherd, convinced he must protect our children at all costs, often digs massive holes to cool off in the sweltering heat. My kids have taken to sitting in these craters, which have sprung up like random lunar features across our yard. Not to be outdone, they’ve also begun excavating to “create a lake,” which involves turning on the hose full blast while they dig furiously. Spoiler alert: the hose must remain on, as the sand soaks up the water too quickly. They often end up drenched in mud, while the dog looks on with disdain, firmly refusing to join in the wet chaos.

Yard Clutter Galore

Creating a lake requires a variety of tools. You’ll need multiple shovels—because if there’s only one, a sibling will hog it and chaos will ensue. You’ll need a hose, which will inevitably get left lying around, and perhaps a few dinosaurs to populate the imaginary lake. These items remain scattered across our yard because who’s motivated to clean up when it’s scorching outside?

The pool adds its own layer of clutter. I watch as they jump in, swim, and inevitably forget towels on the ground, or run inside naked while I dash in to grab one. A trail of swimsuits and towels often leads from the pool, accompanied by forgotten pool toys and a deflated float somewhere in the vicinity. Yes, our yard is a mess, but when the temperature hits 115 degrees, I’m not about to be the one to tidy it up.

Summer Joys

All this mayhem is a sign that we’re outside enjoying summer. That empty bourbon bottle beside my hammock? It’s a remnant of a Zoom call with friends. The pile of floats next to the pool indicates that my partner and I occasionally join in the fun, sometimes after the kids have gone to bed (and yes, we might forgo clothing, thanks to our privacy fence).

Our yard may not win any beauty contests, but it’s a hub of activity. Our children are away from screens, safely supervised by us and the dogs. They’re happy, and so are we. If anyone feels inclined to come over and fill in holes during this sweltering heat, be our guest. But our kids are content in their little slice of dirt and play equipment. It was a lifesaver during 2020, and honestly, we love our yard—mess and all. Grass is overrated anyway.

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Summary

In the heat of summer, Jamie Reynolds shares the joys of raising three boys in a yard that has transformed into a chaotic playground. Amidst the mess created by their antics—ranging from digging holes to constructing makeshift lakes—the family embraces the happiness and outdoor activity that summer brings, prioritizing fun over a pristine yard.