Let’s be real for a moment—some days my partner and I hardly exchange a word. With two kids, a full-time job, a side gig, and minimal support for childcare or household chores, we often find ourselves overwhelmed. Our lives are filled with joy; our two little ones bring us immense fulfillment. Yet, the relentless demands of parenting can leave little room for self-care or for nurturing our relationship.
When my wailing newborn was placed in my arms eight years ago, the whirlwind of motherhood turned my life upside down. I doubted that anything from my old life could remain intact. However, after a few years of navigating this parenting journey, I can confidently say that, despite the chaos, our marriage is flourishing—stronger than ever, in fact.
Of course, it’s not without its flaws. I have my fair share of grievances about my partner (like his obsession with his cell phone, the trash that often needs taking out, and the shower curtain that seems to have a mind of its own). I’m sure he has his own list about me (primarily centered around my penchant for nagging!). BUT, when I reflect on how well we are co-parenting, it becomes clear that my partner is as engaged and attentive to our children as I am. He connects with them deeply, and whenever he’s home, he gives his all, day or night. In being a fantastic dad, he grants me the greatest gift of all.
Here’s a little secret—his exceptional dad skills make my heart flutter and are honestly quite attractive. (Yes, our intimate life is also thriving amidst the demands of parenthood.)
I recognize that many fathers out there share the same dedication as he does. Yet, I also know plenty of dads who struggle to fully engage with their kids and partners. I feel incredibly fortunate each day.
So, to my partner and all the amazing fathers out there:
Thank you for rising early on weekends to let me catch some extra sleep. This morning, I awoke to find the living room transformed into a superhero battleground, with you playing alongside our son—Superman in one hand and a lukewarm cup of coffee in the other. My heart skipped a beat.
Thank you for those long nights spent caring for our sick little ones. Your willingness to handle the vomit-soaked laundry without a single complaint is something I truly admire (I know I would have grumbled a lot!).
Thank you for the countless hours you’ve spent pacing the hallway with our fussy babies. Your soothing “daddy walk” has been a lifesaver during those challenging evenings.
Thank you for being the one to drive the kids to birthday parties, swim lessons, and check-ups. I’ll admit, some errands are not my favorite, and I appreciate you taking the wheel on those.
Thank you for waking up at the crack of dawn to provide for our family, ensuring that you can come home early and cherish those fleeting moments before bedtime.
Thank you for never batting an eye when you walk in after a grueling 12-hour shift only to be met with two screaming kids and my exasperated cry of “I can’t handle this anymore!”
Thank you for remembering the little details, like how our toddler prefers his pizza cut (into rectangles, of course) and how our older son likes to be tucked in with the blankets just right.
And thank you, right now, for taking those two cranky kids to the park so I can pen this heartfelt note to you.
Dads often get a bad rap. While I know many fathers unfortunately abandon their families or fail to be present, it’s important to celebrate the good dads—the ones who show up and truly understand what it means to be involved.
I realize it can be tough when it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, but you are building a foundation of trust with your children. You’re providing them with a meaningful example of what a man can be.
Moreover, you are giving your partner the much-needed opportunity to breathe, to find moments of peace, and to reconnect with her identity outside of “Mommy.” Most importantly, you’re reminding her of why she fell in love with you in the first place.
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In summary, let’s take a moment to appreciate the dads who are committed, involved, and present in their children’s lives. Your efforts matter deeply, and the love you show enriches not only your children’s lives but also your partner’s well-being.
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