I graduated from university in 2003 with a degree in International Relations. Just as the country was entering the Iraq War, the defense sector was thriving, so I relocated to the Washington, D.C. area and secured a role with a defense contractor. Although my title was misleading and I often acted as a glorified assistant, the job provided me with a security clearance and valuable experience that eventually led to my dream position as an intelligence analyst. I found immense fulfillment in this career; it allowed me to conduct research and write, all while serving my country.
A few years post-college, I got married. My husband attended West Point and later moved to D.C. for medical school before joining the Army. To spend more time together, I decided to pursue further education, juggling full-time work with night classes to earn a master’s degree in International Commerce and Policy. After his graduation, the Army transferred us to Georgia for his residency. I successfully landed an intelligence analyst role 40 minutes away, where I remained for five years until another relocation.
However, after nine years in my ideal job, that move effectively ended my career. There were no intelligence positions available at our new location, and by the time we moved again, my security clearance had expired. Job listings for intelligence analysts typically require an active clearance, as the process to obtain one is both costly and lengthy. I was heartbroken.
Sadly, my experience is not unique. Throughout the past 13 years, I’ve met numerous military spouses, many of whom are college-educated and hold advanced degrees. Almost all had their own careers before marrying their partners, but with few exceptions, such as some nurses and educators, they had to abandon those careers.
Military spouses face disproportionately high unemployment or underemployment rates compared to their civilian peers. The unemployment rate for military spouses sits at an alarming 24%—10 points higher than the peak pandemic level of 14.7% in April 2020. As supporting a family on a single income becomes increasingly challenging, many spouses take whatever job they can find, often in roles that do not align with their skills. Among those fortunate enough to secure employment, an estimated 31-51% are underemployed. I eventually found a part-time job editing articles for an online publication, earning only one-sixth of my previous salary. While many are grateful to be employed, underemployment is disheartening. It’s incredibly frustrating to recognize your potential and talents but to be held back by the military lifestyle’s demands, including constant moves and deployments.
This Friday, May 7th, is Military Spouse Appreciation Day. I encourage you to take a moment to express gratitude to those who are married to military personnel. Their sacrifices often go unrecognized, yet many have given up their own aspirations and careers in service to this nation, a sacrifice that deserves acknowledgment and appreciation.
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In summary, marrying into the military can lead to significant sacrifices, often impacting career trajectories and personal aspirations. Many military spouses, despite their qualifications, find themselves navigating a challenging job market, facing high unemployment and underemployment rates. Recognition and support for their sacrifices are essential.