In recent months, I’ve been indulging in an excessive amount of streaming—let’s be honest, I’m practically glued to my screen. While binge-watching, I stumbled upon a captivating show about decluttering and organization. You may have heard of Marie Kondo’s “spark joy” philosophy. I tuned in, hoping to glean some tidying techniques, just like many other moms I know. The show didn’t disappoint; I learned innovative folding methods, like transforming my clothes into neat little rectangles and organizing them vertically.
As I watched, a vital message emerged: we often possess more items than we truly need, and our lives become much more enjoyable when we focus on what we genuinely cherish. The concept of surrounding ourselves with things that “spark joy” may sound cliché, but witnessing families let go of excess clutter and rediscover their living spaces is surprisingly moving. Episode after episode, viewers witness a return to their original family intentions, which hits home on a deeper level.
Motivated by the series, I began to apply these lessons in my own home. I tackled one category at a time, letting go of surplus items and organizing what remained. My home became cleaner and more serene. While perfection was unrealistic—thanks to my two little ones constantly scattering toys and art supplies—the environment improved. More importantly, I underwent a mental shift and began to understand what truly mattered to me and what was merely weighing me down—those items I held onto out of habit rather than genuine affection.
As I practiced this mindfulness, I extended the concept beyond my possessions to my daily life. I began to examine the commitments I made, questioning the necessity of each task. Many obligations felt obligatory, driven by external expectations rather than personal desires.
I realized that prioritizing joy is often low on my to-do list (very high for my kids but not for me). It became clear that I needed to declutter not just my home, but my schedule as well, to create more joyful family moments.
A psychologist from my practice shared a powerful technique: families should chart their obligations on a monthly calendar. They list meetings, appointments, and activities in red, while using a blue pen for enjoyable, relaxing pursuits. Often, families are shocked at how much of their time is consumed by obligations, realizing they’re spinning too many plates. The more commitments, the less time and energy each receives—an exhausting cycle.
Doing Less to Achieve More
Perfection in decluttering my home may never be achieved while my children are young. However, like many families, I’m embracing a less-is-more approach. Simplifying our environments and schedules allows us to focus on what truly matters rather than being overwhelmed by maintaining unnecessary clutter. Research shows that a scattered focus diminishes productivity, and this principle applies at home as well.
While I may not become the most organized mom, I’m not striving for that unattainable “Housekeeper of the Year” title. Decluttering transcends mere physical cleaning; it’s about identifying what truly matters to us—what brings joy into our lives and homes. Who wouldn’t want a little more of that?
Of course, not every task can be neglected. Household management, meal preparation, and laundry are ongoing responsibilities. Even daily chores can be managed efficiently by busy moms who employ these strategies:
- Batching Tasks
Rather than allowing tasks to linger in your mind, set aside dedicated time to organize your week. Spend half an hour planning and then allocate one or two hours to tackle as many items on your list as possible in one go. If you don’t finish, schedule another session. This approach minimizes mental strain and fosters mindfulness. - Separating Chores from Self-Care
There have been times when I took a day off work only to spend it running errands. By evening, I often felt more drained than when I worked. Errands are essential but should not be mistaken for quality time spent on self-care or moments with loved ones. I often cross off tasks without exhausting myself, which leads to greater satisfaction. - Outsourcing Tasks
Cleaning isn’t my forte, so I opted to hire a cleaner for the one task I dread most. This decision not only alleviated my stress but also compelled me to organize before her arrival. I regained valuable time for more meaningful pursuits. Although hiring help isn’t feasible for everyone, outsourcing domestic responsibilities in any capacity can be beneficial. - Automating Responsibilities
Remember, you’re not alone in managing your household, kids, or bills. The endless mental checklist can be overwhelming. Reduce this load by delegating tasks when possible or automating them. Modern conveniences, like autopay for bills and online grocery shopping, can significantly ease daily stress. I prefer ordering necessities online rather than navigating crowded stores, saving time for family and self-care.
Want More Joy? Stop Trying to Do It All
Being a modern mom often feels like a juggling act, but that wasn’t how it was meant to be. Seek ways to leverage technology, share responsibilities within your community, and carve out time for self-care. This approach will allow you to pause, reflect, and fill your motherhood journey with more joy and fewer burdens.
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Summary
Busy moms can lighten their load by batching tasks, separating chores from self-care, outsourcing unpleasant tasks, and automating responsibilities. Embracing a less-is-more philosophy helps prioritize joy in both home and daily life. By implementing these strategies, moms can create more space for meaningful moments with their families.