You know that feeling when you’re parched, and a glass of water tastes like heaven? Or the moment you’ve been away from sweets for a while, and a bite of your grandmother’s pie becomes an unforgettable experience?
There’s wisdom in the saying, “Good things come to those who wait.” While I occasionally find that notion flawed, there’s merit in the idea of teasing yourself just enough to create some anticipation before indulging. Working hard for something can be incredibly rewarding when it finally pays off.
I often try to impart this lesson to my daughter. She enjoys shopping for clothes with her hard-earned money from her dishwashing job (no idea where she gets that enthusiasm, ahem), but she also dreams of saving up for a car. Like many teens, she wants a vehicle handed to her on a platter. As her mother, I explain that the wait and effort will lead to a much deeper appreciation for that car, rather than just receiving one wrapped with a big bow.
Ever considered that this concept could extend to your sex life? It absolutely can! The practice of edging—bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm and then pausing—can lead to more intense orgasms.
I understand this may not be practical for everyone, especially busy parents who can barely grab 20 minutes while the kids are distracted by a show. And after a long day, most of us just want to finish quickly and fall asleep. However, if you find a moment to explore this, it’s definitely worth a shot.
How to Engage in Edging
So, how does one engage in this edging practice? Dainis Graveris, a Certified Sex Educator and Relationship Expert at SexualAlpha, shares some insightful tips on how to get started.
First and foremost, shift your focus when it comes to masturbation. Instead of aiming for the climax, make edging your primary goal. “Masturbation shouldn’t just be a means to relieve boredom or sexual tension,” says Graveris.
Another crucial tip is to avoid porn or stimulating images during this process. Graveris emphasizes that this helps you concentrate on your own feelings and sensations, which is the key to effective edging. Engaging in this practice allows you to better understand your arousal stages, so it’s beneficial to start solo before introducing it with a partner.
To begin, set the mood. Dim the lights, lock the door, light some candles, or play soothing music—whatever helps you relax and focus on yourself.
Next, close your eyes and think about someone (or something) that excites you. Start touching yourself until you feel aroused. Pay attention to how your body reacts: your heartbeat increases, muscles tighten, skin flushes, and blood flow intensifies in your genital area. Graveris labels this as the excitement stage of arousal.
Staying present is vital. Aim to hover around 80% on a scale of 0%-100% (where 50% is sexually excited and 100% is orgasm) and then gently bring yourself back to 50%. As soon as you sense you’re nearing climax, pause the stimulation. “Remove your hands from your genitals and slow down,” Graveris advises.
After practicing this several times, allow yourself to reach orgasm and take note of how different it feels. Graveris recommends keeping sessions between 15-20 minutes; it doesn’t need to be a lengthy endeavor.
If you decide to try edging with a partner, communication is key. “When you’re close to climax, let your partner know to ease off and switch to gentler touches on other areas, like your thighs or breasts. Repeat this pattern until you’re ready to orgasm,” Graveris suggests.
Benefits of Edging
There are numerous benefits to this practice, according to Graveris. “Edging increases your body awareness and helps you become more attuned to what feels good, boosting your confidence in your pleasure.” It can also aid in discovering your body and pleasure points during solo sessions.
“Beyond achieving orgasms, edging can lead to longer and more powerful climaxes,” Graveris concludes.
I don’t know about you, but I’d be more than willing to carve out some ‘me time’ in my closet each week if it means enhancing the pleasure I receive. It’s a bit of effort I’m ready to invest for a more fulfilling experience.
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Summary
Edging, or bringing oneself to the edge of orgasm and then pausing, can enhance sexual pleasure and lead to more intense orgasms. It requires a shift in focus from merely achieving climax to experiencing the various stages of arousal. Setting a relaxing environment, staying attuned to bodily sensations, and communicating with partners are essential components of this practice. By investing time in understanding your body, you can achieve longer and more powerful orgasms.