In today’s society, owning a home is often seen as a symbol of success. The notion of the “American Dream” typically includes a cozy house with a white picket fence. However, for many, this dream remains just that—a dream. While purchasing a home is frequently viewed as a wise investment, it requires a significant amount of initial wealth that isn’t accessible to everyone. This dilemma is at the heart of Netflix’s series “Marriage or Mortgage,” where couples must decide between spending their funds on a wedding or a house. For my partner and me, the answer is clear: we are all in for marriage.
I would prefer to allocate our finances toward a wedding rather than a home. Some may perceive this as imprudent, but the reality is that homeownership demands a much longer commitment than a wedding. Buying a house requires years of financial stability and responsibility, while a wedding is a single-day event. Yes, it’s a significant expense, but once it’s paid for, we are free from ongoing financial obligations associated with it. I find that much more appealing than being tied to a mortgage indefinitely. Renting may have its inconveniences, but it remains a viable option.
My partner and I got engaged during the 2020 holiday season, and naturally, people are already inquiring about our wedding plans. Currently, we are saving for a wedding a few years down the line, but we have other financial priorities to address first. Celebrating our love with friends and family is exceedingly important to us. Watching “Marriage or Mortgage,” we resonated with a couple named Alex and Jamie, who, like us, have diverse financial backgrounds and aspirations.
We both carry a significant amount of student loan debt. I have struggled to make progress in repaying mine, while my partner has been paying hers down when possible. Despite having paid off my small credit card debt, my partner’s credit score is still affected by her remaining balance. This financial burden complicates our ability to secure an apartment, let alone a mortgage. Our situation is hardly unique in today’s economic climate.
The COVID-19 pandemic has highlighted the fragility of financial security. I have been able to maintain my writing career throughout the pandemic, but my partner, who works in the entertainment industry, has faced job loss. This has placed the financial burden squarely on my shoulders. The pandemic has resulted in widespread job losses, making it challenging for many to meet even basic expenses. Purchasing a home during such uncertain times raises questions about long-term viability—what happens if you lose your job after buying a house?
While “Marriage or Mortgage” showcases couples making decisions about their futures, it overlooks the ongoing costs and responsibilities of homeownership. It’s entertaining to see couples debate the size of a garage or the layout of a kitchen, but they need to confront the harsh realities of home maintenance. One couple featured in the show works in the fitness industry; if one were to get injured and unable to work, what happens then? Their parents may help with the down payment, but they likely won’t cover ongoing monthly mortgage payments.
Homeownership comes with hidden costs that many people overlook. My partner and I have considered these factors when weighing the benefits of buying a home versus renting. If something malfunctions in a house, the homeowner is responsible for all repair costs. Conversely, if an issue arises in our apartment, we can simply submit a maintenance request without incurring any additional expenses.
Critics of “Marriage or Mortgage” argue that choosing between a wedding and a home amid a global pandemic seems absurd. However, the show was filmed before COVID-19, so these couples were unaware of the impending crisis. Some believe that buying a house during the pandemic is a savvy move due to lower housing costs, yet economic uncertainty looms large. Many weddings took place post-pandemic, and couples had to downsize their celebrations, which ultimately saved them money.
In a follow-up article, Women’s Health spoke with the couples about their lives after the show. Two couples who opted for weddings faced significant changes due to COVID-19. Alex and Jamie, who are nurses, experienced burnout in the early days of the pandemic and decided to return to school for advanced degrees. Had they chosen to buy a home, they might not have had the flexibility to make that decision. Similarly, Emily and Braxton, personal trainers, saw a decline in income due to gym closures.
We understand that our rent could potentially cover a mortgage, but various obstacles make that option feel out of reach. Securing funds for a wedding venue does not require a loan, nor does my ability to purchase a wedding dress depend on my credit score. While weddings are expensive, we believe the investment is worth it. No matter our earning situation, we will remain married and not face the stress of losing a home.
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In summary, the choice between marriage and mortgage is deeply personal. For us, the decision is clear: a wedding is a celebration of love and commitment that doesn’t come with the long-term financial obligations of homeownership.