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This week’s dilemma: How do you handle parents who miss your kids but refuse to get vaccinated?
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
My parents live about an hour away, and we haven’t seen them hardly at all over the past year. During the warm months, we’d enjoy outdoor picnics and walks, but with winter and rising COVID cases, we’ve kept our distance. They’re familiar with FaceTime, so at least we can connect that way. However, we didn’t gather for any holidays due to safety concerns. They often express frustration that their friends are seeing their grandkids regularly and claim we’re being unreasonable. My siblings let my parents see their kids, but those kids are older, while I have a toddler and an infant.
Recently, I mentioned the COVID vaccine, saying that once they get vaccinated, they can visit us. They reacted dismissively, saying they don’t “trust” the vaccine because it was developed too quickly and have no plans to get it soon. They’re in their sixties and should qualify for the vaccine soon, but this attitude is disheartening. What should I do? If they refuse the vaccine, I won’t feel safe having them around my children. Are my kids going to grow up without knowing their grandparents?
I understand your frustration; it’s tough feeling like the responsible one when just trying to protect your family. It’s painful that your parents can’t see the connection between the vaccine and spending time with their grandkids. Many people share similar concerns because they often don’t take the time to properly research their beliefs. If your parents were to look into it, they would find that the vaccine was fast-tracked due to emergency funding, not because of a lack of rigorous testing.
You could try to provide them with factual information if you think they might be open to it. However, if they’re deeply entrenched in conspiracy theories, it may not be worth your energy. It might be beneficial to ask them why they fear the vaccine more than the actual virus.
Consider researching local vaccination appointments for them. You might say, “Hey, I found a nearby pharmacy offering the vaccine to your age group. Would you like help making an appointment?” Often, older individuals struggle with navigating the online scheduling process more than anything else.
Ultimately, you can hope that the desire to see their grandchildren will motivate them to change their minds. I genuinely wish that happens because your kids deserve to know their grandparents. But, brace yourself for the possibility that they may not come around anytime soon. This past year has shown that sometimes, those we trust to change their views can disappoint us. Remember, you’re not alone in this. Keep me updated!
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In summary, navigating the complexities of family relationships during a pandemic is challenging, especially when safety concerns arise over vaccinations. Open communication, sharing factual information, and understanding their perspective may help bridge the gap. However, be prepared for the possibility that your parents may not change their stance quickly.