When the COVID-19 pandemic hit the west coast last February, many people found themselves hastily canceling travel plans. The emergence of the novel coronavirus meant that we had to adapt to a new reality, and one of the hardest adjustments was the abrupt halt to non-essential travel and social activities. People were understandably upset about missing events like Broadway shows or family trips to amusement parks. The disappointment felt by some was almost palpable, as if they were mourning a significant loss.
While I empathize with the disappointment, I couldn’t help but find it amusing when people expressed their anger using words like “deserve” and “need.” The underlying sentiment here was a sense of entitlement, as though a vacation was a basic necessity. But let’s unpack that notion.
If your biggest struggle during the pandemic has been the cancellation of a vacation, consider yourself fortunate. And perhaps keep those sentiments to yourself on social media. It’s clear that many people crave a getaway, but it’s a bit cringeworthy to hear constant reminders about what some view as a deprivation, especially when so many people are facing far more serious hardships.
I often remind my children about the distinction between needs and wants. They have many desires, some of which are essential—like food, shelter, and clothing—while others, such as new toys or trips to amusement parks, are simply wants. I encourage them to save for the things they want, while also teaching them to appreciate the security and privileges they have.
Unfortunately, many adults fail to grasp this difference. It’s embarrassing to see grown individuals throw tantrums over canceled vacations, particularly during a time when so many are struggling with health issues, job losses, and financial instability. While many long for a vacation home or a “much-needed” escape, countless others are just trying to make ends meet.
Everyone could use a break right now, but for some, an escape might simply be a quick meal instead of cooking, diving into a good book, or taking a short walk. For others, even these small comforts might be out of reach. So if you’re proclaiming a “need” for a vacation, you might be overlooking the real struggles faced by many people. When you share photos from your getaway and describe how much you “needed” it, it can come off as tone-deaf to those who are struggling financially.
Having disposable income for travel is a privilege. So please, spare me the victim mentality. Don’t tell me you deserve a vacation because you’ve worked hard or made sacrifices. Many who can’t take a vacation also work hard and make sacrifices. And if someone is unable to escape somewhere sunny, should they feel guilty about their mental health struggles? Therapy, support, and proper medication are essential for mental health, not just a trip to a beach.
Everyone deserves time to relax, but not everyone can afford travel or luxury accommodations. Having extra money to allocate for a vacation is a different scenario than making do without essentials. Travel often remains a luxury for the upper middle class and wealthy. Sure, people from various backgrounds vacation, but I would never claim entitlement to one. I recognize my privilege and the importance of reading the room.
So, my advice is to avoid bragging about your travel plans or oversharing what could be perceived as an abundance of good fortune. Also, please refrain from attributing your good luck to divine intervention or insisting that hard work alone leads to such rewards. Opportunity plays a significant role, and if you can still plan a trip during a pandemic, perhaps take this time for self-reflection and show some consideration for those struggling. Waiting until it’s safer for everyone, especially the most vulnerable, to take your trip would be a more compassionate choice.
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Summary
The article discusses the misconception that vacations are a necessity, especially during challenging times such as the COVID-19 pandemic. It highlights the differences between needs and wants and emphasizes the privilege of being able to travel. The author encourages readers to reflect on their circumstances and consider the struggles faced by others, advocating for a more compassionate approach to discussing travel and personal needs.
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