As the morning light filters through the curtains, my nine-year-old son, Ethan, leaps out of bed with the energy of a spring-loaded toy. His footsteps echo like thunder in our cozy home, filled with excitement for the day ahead. No longer does he rush to my room; instead, he darts down the hallway to his favorite destination — his little sister, Mia.
Their bond is something special. With a nearly four-year age difference, Mia is just young enough to avoid being a rival, yet close enough in age to easily follow Ethan’s lead. Together, they spend hours outside, slaying imaginary dragons or building elaborate houses with their toys.
Each morning, Ethan bursts into Mia’s room, sprawls out on the floor, and picks up a “Superheroes” book while she draws pictures of fairies. Their companionship is often punctuated by laughter or the occasional squabble, but mostly it marks the joyful beginning of another day spent in each other’s company.
The pandemic has strengthened their relationship and postponed the inevitable quiet mornings when Ethan will prefer solitude over sibling time. Soon enough, he may struggle to find a worthy opponent to join him in his playful adventures.
At nine, Ethan is teetering on the edge of adolescence — a new and unfamiliar phase for our family. This transition requires him to let go of cherished habits, identities, and playmates. Witnessing hints of his childhood fade away, I cherish these moments when they choose to be together. I lie in bed, soaking in their joyful giggles and quiet conversations, wishing I could hit the pause button on time.
Then, as if by magic, time stood still.
The pandemic has largely confined us to our home, where we work, play, and learn under one roof. This isolation has kept us healthy but has also turned days into a surreal blur. Without in-person schooling, sports, or playdates, the pace of Ethan’s growth into a “big kid” has slowed down as well.
Before the pandemic, I noticed small signs of his childhood slipping away. He began to walk ahead of me during our school walks, and one day, influenced by friends, he gave Mia his entire collection of Pokémon cards. Where he once joyfully raced through playgrounds, he now preferred to stroll and chat with his peers, distancing himself from the noise of younger children.
To the outside world, Ethan is still the same fun-loving, football enthusiast he’s always been, but as his mother, I see the subtle shifts in his development. I remember being nine myself. On my first day of fourth grade, I packed my beloved Sanrio supplies, only to discover they were no longer trendy. Conversations shifted from cute erasers to whispers about boys, and my favorite TV shows transformed from cartoons to “Friends.” I felt the world around me spinning too quickly, and I longed to pause time.
I can imagine Ethan feels similarly when relatives start asking him about girls or when peers tease him for wearing Velcro shoes.
At times, the pandemic makes our home feel like a gilded cage. However, I am mostly grateful it has given Ethan the space to breathe. There’s no pressure to keep up with his friends, and with Mia as his playful guide, the little boy within him is reemerging.
Whenever he finishes his Zoom classes, he immerses himself in imaginary football games, throwing and catching the ball solo. He designs his own plays and follows his imagined routes. He lingers by Mia, who often invites him to join her Frozen dollhouse adventures, but his “big kid” instincts sometimes pull him away. Eventually, though, I find them side by side, laughing uncontrollably at the antics of his Olaf character.
Mia provides him the freedom to soften, granting him permission to embrace his inner child once more. From the kitchen window, I absorb these heartwarming scenes.
The virus is devastating, and the grief it has caused is immense. Yet, in moments of darkness, I think of these simple joys — a brother and sister who get a little more time to explore their imaginations together.
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Summary:
The pandemic has allowed my son Ethan, on the brink of adolescence, to enjoy more time in his childhood alongside his little sister, Mia. Their bond has grown stronger as they share imaginative play and daily adventures. While the world outside continues to change, their relationship has provided a comforting space for Ethan to embrace his youth a little longer, making the most of this unique situation.