As the New Year approaches, many of us are ready to breathe a sigh of relief. Regardless of where you are or who you are, let’s face it: this year has been tough. So, how do you wrap up a year that has left you feeling defeated? Drawing from my own experiences, here are some insights that might help.
First, let me share a bit about my journey. Over the past five years, I’ve faced a string of difficult challenges. In 2015, I was diagnosed with cervical cancer, went into remission, and then faced the heart-wrenching loss of my first child due to an ectopic pregnancy. I spent 2016 caught in a cycle of hope and despair, constantly visiting fertility clinics and undergoing numerous tests. The following years brought more heartache: losing my son shortly after his birth in 2017, and then watching my second son fight for his life after being born prematurely in 2018.
By 2019, though relatively calmer, I found myself grappling with anxiety and PTSD. For the past few New Year’s Eves, I’ve wished for the departing year to take away the heavy burdens I carried and hoped the new year would bring some relief. I’ve tried various methods to cope—surrounding myself with joyful people, indulging in self-pity, and even ignoring the transition altogether.
Whether you’re hopeful about what lies ahead or anxious that the struggles of this year will linger, here are my hard-earned thoughts on how to say farewell to a year that felt more like a burden than a blessing.
Take a Moment to Say Goodbye.
It’s nearly impossible to leave behind all the emotional baggage, but you can certainly try. Saying goodbye doesn’t equate to forgetting; rather, it’s about not allowing the past to hinder your future. Reflect on the experiences—the good, the bad, and the ugly—acknowledging how they’ve shaped you. For those who endured immense pain or loss, the memories may linger, but honor your journey and think of ways to navigate the upcoming year. Personally, I plan to write down my thoughts and then burn the list as the clock strikes midnight. I’ll kick off the new year with a Zoom session with my therapist. Care to join?
Recognize the Positives.
In 2017, I faced the unimaginable—holding my son as he took his last breath. Yet, it was also the year I became a mother. I refuse to let his brief yet beautiful life be overshadowed by his death. So, as I bid farewell to that year, I expressed gratitude alongside my relief.
2020 was undeniably challenging, but it also brought some unexpected gifts. Yes, juggling a full-time job with a toddler during lockdown was tough, but it afforded me precious moments with my son that I might not have had otherwise. While I miss physical hugs from friends and family, virtual connections helped me reconnect with wonderful people from my past. And even if staying home felt restrictive, I’ve always preferred comfy clothes over pants!
As you approach December 31, jot down the positives from 2020—perhaps a newfound resilience, a deeper appreciation for safe spaces, or a collection of cozy leggings. Carry these with you into the new year.
Adjust Your Expectations.
It’s easy to build lofty expectations for a new year, especially after a rough one. When midnight struck to welcome 2016, I sighed with relief, thinking it couldn’t get worse. But it did. As we prepare to say goodbye to 2020, let’s remain hopeful for 2021 but temper our expectations.
For years, I held on to the belief that the next year would be my year to finally become a mother, waiting in vain for my happy ending while neglecting to enjoy the present. While 2021 promises potential—mass vaccinations, social changes, and a return to some normalcy—remember that life can be unpredictable. Step into the new year with enthusiasm, but stay grounded.
I’m not suggesting you abandon all plans or resolutions; just set realistic goals. Celebrate every achievement, no matter how minor it may seem. Let’s say it together: “Goodbye 2020, I won’t forget you, but it’s time to move on.”
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In summary, as we close the chapter on a difficult year, it’s essential to reflect, celebrate the positives, and set reasonable expectations for the future. Embrace the journey ahead with hope and resilience.