Welcome to our advice column, where we tackle all your burning questions about life, love, parenting, and everything in between. This week’s dilemma: what do you do when your partner believes they have a free pass from parenting duties just because they spend more hours at work?
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
I’m currently working part-time from home, while my partner has a demanding office job that they’ve been doing remotely since March. Their workday is intense, and they’re often fully occupied. I, on the other hand, need to focus on my work, but I’m only clocking in about half the hours they do. Whenever our children (ages four and two) need something during the day, my partner expects me to handle it without question. Their argument is that since I’m at home, it’s my responsibility to meet our kids’ demands. Even though it’s true that I’m home all the time, it feels strange that they completely ignore our kids crying or asking for attention, especially when their “office” is just a few feet away. When I’m working, I can’t always pause to address the kids’ needs, yet I’m left to manage everything. Am I wrong for thinking they should do more?
I can’t tell you how many parents have shared similar frustrations over the past year. So, rest assured, you’re not alone. But your partner’s mindset is definitely not acceptable.
This past year has disrupted the balance between work and parenting like never before, but it hasn’t given anyone a free pass from their responsibilities. In fact, it has added layers of stress that we all have to navigate. It’s worth questioning why your partner thinks they are the only one feeling the strain.
Regardless of whether they work 12 hours a day or if they are engaged in something incredibly important, they are still a parent. The fact that they can’t just put down the “Dad Hat” when they open their laptop is essential. When they’re at home, hearing the kids’ needs and choosing to ignore them is not okay. They shouldn’t just be a “Cog in the Corporate Machine,” but also an active participant in parenting.
We’re all trying our best, and many employers are being understanding during this challenging time, given the pandemic and its attendant crises. However, some still cling to the notion that everything should operate as usual, which can feel like an added burden. If your partner’s viewpoint stems from workplace expectations, that’s unfortunate; nevertheless, they must recognize their parenting duties while working from home.
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In summary, it’s crucial for both partners to share parenting responsibilities, especially when working from home. Your partner needs to recognize their role as a parent and actively participate in meeting your children’s needs, regardless of their work commitments.