Dear Neighbor,
While strolling through our neighborhood with my children, I noticed a sign in your yard stating, “Every day in Pennsylvania, a baby is killed in late-term abortion.” This message lingered in my mind, prompting me to reach out to you.
Let me share a piece of my journey. At 32 weeks and 5 days into my pregnancy, I received the devastating news that my son had passed away. I was induced and delivered a beautiful baby boy who, unfortunately, was silent. The only sounds in the delivery room were our heart-wrenching sobs for the child we had longed for after struggling with infertility. The weight of this loss is something I will carry forever.
In the time since, I’ve connected with other mothers who have faced similar heartbreak. I want to share two stories that illustrate the complexity surrounding late-term abortions.
Story One
In one case, a mother discovers that her baby has multiple anomalies that render it “incompatible with life.” Faced with the certainty of her child’s death, she chooses to deliver her baby early. This decision allows her precious moments with her child, who would otherwise have been left on life support. This situation is labeled as a “late-term abortion.”
Story Two
Another mother attends her anatomy scan at 21 weeks, only to find out her baby has anencephaly—a condition where parts of the brain are missing. The reality is that her child would never survive outside the womb. Rather than endure the physical pain of labor, she opts for a dilation and curettage (D&C) to terminate the pregnancy, sparing herself further anguish. This too is considered a “late-term abortion.”
It’s crucial to understand that the term “late-term abortion” lacks a medical definition and isn’t used by healthcare professionals in these contexts. The experiences shared above would be classified as “termination for medical reasons.” Statistically, abortions after 21 weeks account for just 1% of all abortions, and the women involved are navigating heart-wrenching choices.
These are not women who decided at 30 weeks that they no longer wanted a child. They are mothers forced to make incredibly painful decisions due to circumstances beyond their control, choosing to create fleeting memories with their children, however brief.
I have personally felt the agony of losing a child and holding my lifeless son. If I had known his passing was unavoidable and had the opportunity to spend even a moment with him alive, I would have embraced that chance, even if it meant what you refer to as a “late-term abortion.”
I urge you to reconsider the narrative surrounding these choices. Please show empathy and sensitivity towards women like myself who have endured unimaginable loss. These mothers are not monsters; they are simply doing what they believe is best for their children.
Sincerely,
Your neighbor and fellow bereaved mother
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