When I first laid eyes on my seven-year-old, I never anticipated the remarkable transformations he would undergo in such a short period. Witnessing his journey from a tiny, helpless infant to a chubby, cheerful baby was nothing short of miraculous. Every stage since — from an inquisitive toddler to a determined preschooler and now an adventurous elementary student — has been just as amazing. Now that I have three children, this experience never gets old. Watching them grow is a privilege, and I am in constant awe of their development.
However, something unexpected occurred recently. My son turned seven, and suddenly, I find myself parenting a completely different child.
He looks different. All traces of his baby face have vanished. The beautiful freckles dotting his nose now adorn a face that has started to transform from a babyish roundness to a more defined, sculpted look. His formerly soft, plump cheeks feel firmer when I kiss them. He’s grown to be less than a foot shorter than I am, with a long neck that adds to his growing stature. Somewhere between six and seven, he morphed into someone entirely new.
It turns out that there are genuine hormonal shifts occurring during this time, which likely explain these physical changes. Adrenarche, a precursor to puberty, typically kicks off around this age. Honestly, I had never heard of adrenarche, and even if I had, I don’t think I would have been adequately prepared for it.
I expected my son to grow, change his appearance, and even develop new behaviors along the way. Yet, I was not quite ready for such a profound leap from little kid to big kid. It all feels so sudden and so… monumental.
He remains the messy, intelligent, and silly boy we’ve always known, but there’s an unmistakable shift. He’s maturing rapidly, becoming more capable and quite a bit more helpful. On the flip side, he’s also more irritable, stubborn, and argumentative. Heaven help me.
He’s starting to challenge authority in ways he never did before. Sometimes he’s merely being difficult, while other times he passionately argues his beliefs. If he perceives me as wrong or unfair, he will relentlessly present his case until I acknowledge it. This can be incredibly frustrating, yet it’s impressive to witness him developing a sense of justice that refuses to be silenced. Helping him channel that energy productively isn’t always easy, but we’re navigating it together.
Some aspects of this phase remind me of the toddler years. He gets frustrated about minor issues, like selecting the wrong shade of blue for his drawing or misspelling a word he thinks he should know. Emotional outbursts that wouldn’t have fazed him before now bring him to tears. He’s increasingly aware of how others perceive him; if I laugh when he’s unaware of being funny, he immediately questions whether I’m laughing with him or at him. My reassurances now require more depth than they did during his carefree preschool days.
Any hint of condescension makes him feel angry or sad, and the days of convincing him that everything he does is amazing are long gone. He seeks genuine feedback and can recognize when he needs improvement. However, he’s not yet mature enough to handle critiques well. We still have to cloak our advice in layers of praise for him to accept it. As grown as he seems, in many ways, he’s still just a little boy.
His moods are unpredictable, and his opinions are strong. This phase has presented challenges for all of us that we didn’t see coming, especially while navigating a global pandemic.
Amid the difficulties, there are also incredible aspects of this age. My son is developing unique interests. He still loves dinosaurs, but he’s moved beyond the more famous species, eagerly soaking up information about lesser-known types, prehistoric periods, and mass extinctions. While he’s always adored elephants, he’s now interested in conservation efforts, animal rights, and what he can do to help. His expanding mind is venturing into territories I never knew he wanted to explore. I find myself learning alongside him.
He’s done pretending to enjoy activities just because other kids do. This child doesn’t care for sports or video games, and he’s completely comfortable with his choices. He’s discovering who he truly is.
Fortunately for me, he still seeks affection at times. If he feels sad, hurt, or simply tired, I can often coax him into my bed for a cuddle, pretending that I’m the one who needs the comfort. If I’m lucky, he’ll drift off to sleep while I rub his (sometimes slightly stinky) head close to my heart.
In those moments, I can almost glimpse the baby he once was. I fondly remember nursing him as a tiny infant, watching his long, beautiful eyelashes flutter over his green eyes before resting on his chubby cheeks. I recall how he would finally relax into a deep sleep, safe in my arms, a tiny drop of milk escaping the corner of his mouth.
That baby isn’t truly gone; he’s still with me in my boy. All those hours spent showering love on that little one were not in vain. My big boy feels secure enough in my love to express his frustrations, cry, and question me without fear. Everything I did for that tiny baby laid the foundation for the strong bond we share. I will be his safe haven for as long as he needs me.
This age is challenging but also extraordinarily beautiful. There’s no way I could have fully prepared for this transition from baby to big boy, yet inadvertently, I’ve prepared him just by loving him deeply. Now, I can only hope that what I’m doing now will help me navigate the upcoming tween and teen years!
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Summary:
This article discusses the transformative changes that occur in children around the age of seven, particularly focusing on the phenomenon of adrenarche. It explores the physical and emotional developments a child undergoes during this phase, highlighting both the challenges and joys parents experience as they navigate this transition.