Today marked a pivotal moment for my spirited, resilient, and fiercely independent nearly 11-year-old daughter, Lily. After 67 days of quarantine, she finally allowed herself to express the emotions she had been bottling up since she last stepped foot in her elementary school on March 13.
It all started with yet another squabble with her siblings, and after being reprimanded for her sassiness, our mini-me unleashed her frustration. That familiar transition from calm mom to frustrated parent was all too quick, leading to more shouting (definitely not my proudest mom moment).
Moments later, Lily approached me in the kitchen, genuine remorse in her eyes. My heart swelled as she apologized. I sensed that the argument was just a surface issue, so I gently asked her what was truly bothering her. With tears welling up, she confessed, “I just want to be playing with my friends right now.” My heart sank in empathy.
I embraced her tightly, reassuring her that it’s perfectly fine to feel sad and overwhelmed. It’s okay to cry and acknowledge that the situation we are in is tough. After a heartfelt sob in my arms, she took a deep breath and stepped back. I asked her if she felt better after sharing her feelings, reminding her that while things are difficult now, brighter days are ahead. We talked about how we could still connect with friends through Zoom and visit grandparents safely.
After drying her eyes, she suggested we take a drive together, just the two of us. I eagerly agreed, anticipating some precious one-on-one time with my eldest.
Once lunch was done and after gathering some art supplies for her siblings, we hopped into the car. She picked a playlist and we set off, heading to a store for her to select a birthday outfit for her upcoming celebration.
During our drive, we laughed, sang, and danced, feeling a sense of freedom that had been missing for so long. She shared how wonderful it felt to be near her grandparents, even if only briefly, and how that visit had lifted her spirits.
As we drove, I thought about all the milestones she and her classmates were missing out on, particularly her upcoming graduation from elementary school. I was amazed at how long it took her to truly express her feelings.
After completing our errand, I asked Lily how she felt. Did she feel refreshed? She nodded, echoing my own sense of calm and lightness. It was as if a weight had been lifted from both of us.
The pride I felt in her growth today is indescribable. For a while, she led the way and I simply followed, tuning into her needs and helping her navigate the emotional toll of the changes around us.
As we slowly begin to adapt to a new normal, let’s stay vigilant about the impact these changes have on our children’s mental health. It’s essential to keep an open line of communication with them, ensuring they know they can talk about their feelings at any time.
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In summary, a simple car ride transformed into a significant bonding experience, allowing us both to release pent-up emotions and reconnect as mother and daughter during these challenging times.