After my little ones were tucked in for the night, I took a moment to glance around our home and noticed the traces of their day filled with curiosity and creativity. As a mother of three—ages seven, five, and two—finding time to tidy up is often a luxury I can’t afford. I want to fully engage with my children during this fleeting phase of life, rather than feeling weighed down by the never-ending household chores.
Of course, I appreciate a neat space. I do have a fondness for organization. However, I can’t help but notice every stray toy and crumb on the floor. There are times I wish I could dedicate a full day to cleaning, even if I know it will be undone shortly after. Someday, I dream of a beautifully decorated home, perhaps styled by Chip and Jo.
But for now, I only have 18 years filled with fingerprints, crayon drawings, and the chaos of family life. When the day comes that my last child leaves for adulthood, I know I’ll long for this messy, lively atmosphere once again. I might even trade my dream home for just a few more years of their laughter, exploration, and joy.
Until that time arrives, I strive to be a mom who prioritizes moments with her kids over chores. I want to set aside the dishes for an art project or leave laundry for later to cuddle with a fussy toddler. So, here’s a peek into my reality: 14 signs you’re a (great) mom. And to my own mom and mother-in-law, I assure you it’s not always this hectic!
- A sink overflowing with dishes needing attention.
- A toilet paper roll that raises questions about its cleanliness.
- Breakfast remnants lingering until lunch.
- Bowls or baskets filled with random items throughout the house.
- Toys scattered in your personal space.
- Finding odd objects in unexpected places.
- Kitchen counters that act as catch-alls for daily activities.
- A stove that shows meal prep, but no time to clean afterward.
- A refrigerator crammed haphazardly after a grocery run, all while managing a chaotic household.
- A lunch that’s less than balanced because you’re too tired to make even a simple sandwich.
- Milk left out, hoping it’s still good enough to put back in the fridge.
- Laundry that stays in a pile for days as you pick through it.
- A dining table that resembles a creative disaster zone.
- A prayer that your children will sleep long enough for you to recuperate from another glorious, challenging, tear-your-hair-out, endlessly rewarding day of parenting.
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In summary, being a good mom means embracing the messiness of family life while prioritizing love and bonding over perfection.