As a single mother juggling a full-time job and raising a child on the autism spectrum, I often find myself navigating an overwhelming landscape of challenges. My responsibilities increase with each passing day: managing a demanding career, parenting two children, and caring for our energetic dog, all while enduring the chaos of moving during a pandemic. If that weren’t enough, I’ve also tackled the complexities of homeschooling my high school freshman during lockdown.
Before this global crisis hit, I was already familiar with stress. Leading marketing efforts at an independent engagement agency, I’ve been fortunate to climb the corporate ladder, yet nothing prepared me for the dual roles of chief marketing officer and single parent during these unprecedented times. The hours spent on Zoom calls and virtual meetings have unearthed both positives and negatives for moms working from home.
The Downsides
Let’s start with the downsides. While I might not be a trained educator, I often find myself playing the role of teacher, especially when it comes to my 14-year-old son’s algebra homework. It’s a struggle, and when he asks when he will ever use algebra, it takes all my strength not to respond, “Never!” Between school assignments and the lure of video games, TikTok, and Snapchat, it can feel like I’m failing him in my role as a parent. But guess what? You’re not alone in this; many of us are grappling with the same feelings.
The cooking, laundry, and constant reminders – oh, the reminders! – can feel like an endless cycle. But these challenges are minor compared to the struggles faced by others during this pandemic. Still, amidst the chaos, I’ve noticed some unexpected blessings.
Unexpected Blessings
Miracle #1: I’m present for my children from morning until night. Once we find our rhythm, my son often surprises me by collapsing into my lap for a hug, a precious moment of connection that brings me joy.
Miracle #2: My son’s grades have improved. By being available to help him stay organized and focused, I’ve been able to boost his confidence and academic performance significantly.
Miracle #3: My children are bonding. Despite their seven-year age difference and previous sibling rivalry, they’ve found common ground during this time of togetherness.
Miracle #4: The workplace hierarchy seems diminished. In our home offices, we’re all just individuals navigating life’s ups and downs. This shared experience has fostered empathy and deeper connections with my colleagues, allowing us to support one another more authentically.
Finding Silver Linings
While I would never wish to relive this experience, it’s crucial to recognize the silver linings. As you lose your patience and feel overwhelmed, remember that this unique time with your children may never come again. For those of us parenting children on the spectrum, it’s particularly challenging, but try to cherish these moments together.
Even when it feels like you’re falling short, remember all that you accomplish daily. Are your kids fed? Do they have clean clothes? Are you getting your work done? If the answer is yes, give yourself a well-deserved hug.
As you reflect on your journey, consider the lessons of patience and gratitude that you’ve learned. We are resilient beings, and while we will adapt, it’s helpful to jot down what you’re thankful for. You may find that these notes provide comfort during future challenges.
Further Resources
For more insights on navigating parenthood during trying times, check out our other blog posts like this one, where we explore the complexities of parenting. If you’re looking for expert information on home insemination, visit Make a Mom for valuable resources, and the March of Dimes offers excellent guidance on fertility treatments.
Conclusion
In summary, while this journey is fraught with difficulties, recognizing the little miracles can make all the difference. You’re doing a great job even when it feels otherwise.