In recent weeks, like many parents, I’ve been navigating the challenges of working from home while caring for my two young kids, aged four and one. At the outset, I was determined to maintain a semblance of structure. My daughter and I crafted a morning checklist on a chalkboard and a daily schedule that mirrored her preschool routine. I was bombarded with well-meaning advice from friends and family, complete with color-coded plans featuring circle time, weather discussions, and a question of the day, all designed to mimic her school experience. I thought, “Yes, I can work full-time and educate my child at the same time!”
But then reality struck.
As a writing instructor at a local university, I spent the first two weeks transitioning my in-person classes fully online while my partner occasionally headed into the office. Following a brief “spring break,” my students returned, and the workload piled up. Suddenly, I was faced with 128 assignments to grade and 90 students to support—many of whom were grappling with job losses or family crises while trying to adjust to online learning. On top of that, I had laundry to tackle, groceries to buy, and my own mental health to consider. Just a few days after establishing that school-like schedule, I had to let it go.
I simply couldn’t juggle my responsibilities while also trying to transform our home into a classroom, especially with my partner also working from home.
To all the parents out there who have managed to homeschool their children while balancing their jobs and household duties, I admire you. You’re truly amazing! But for those of us feeling overwhelmed or burnt out, it’s perfectly okay to step back and prioritize our well-being during this time. We need to use this period in whatever way helps us cope.
I recognize that it’s easier for me to say this since my children are not currently missing out on essential academic lessons like algebra or phonics. Their preschool is providing some engaging play-based activities if we choose to participate. We are, after all, fortunate in many ways—we have access to food, technology, and essential supplies.
What I’m really advocating for is self-compassion during these stressful times. Trying to homeschool, even for a few days, was causing my partner and me to be less than kind to ourselves.
Of course, it’s beneficial to keep some structure for the kids. Get them outside to explore (we’ve been having “outdoor adventures” each morning on our usual trail). Read to them, sing songs, do crafts, and bake together. Kids can—and do—learn through play.
But don’t let the pressure of homeschooling add to your stress. We already have enough to manage.
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In summary, it’s essential to recognize our limits and prioritize self-care while navigating the complexities of parenting during unprecedented times. Finding a balance between work and home life is crucial, and it’s okay to let go of perfection in the quest for a healthier family dynamic.