As I approach the final stretch of my last pregnancy, I find myself reflecting on the journey ahead. In just a couple of months, my body will transition from carrying a child to embracing life with three little ones. While I often tell myself that I can handle the chaos of three kids, to be honest, I am still figuring out how to manage it all.
What I truly mean is that I have faith in my ability to learn and adapt. I’ve navigated motherhood before, and I’m good at improvising when necessary. I genuinely believe that, in the end, we will all be alright.
Despite my experience, stepping into the role of a mother for the third time feels like embarking on a new adventure. The experience of becoming a mother isn’t exclusive to first-time parents. Each time a new baby arrives, a new chapter unfolds, and a new version of ‘mom’ is born. Your heart expands, responsibilities multiply, and the dynamics shift. Suddenly, the family you once knew is transformed.
It’s overwhelming, to say the least.
Throughout my parenting journey, I’ve gained a wealth of knowledge, yet one thing remains certain: the learning never stops. Fortunately, I have discovered that there are always individuals willing to impart their wisdom if I’m open to listening.
I recognize that many people aren’t fond of unsolicited parenting advice. We all have our own methods and philosophies, and when others offer their opinions without being asked, it can feel intrusive or even disrespectful. After all, who are they to tell us how to raise our children? It can certainly be frustrating when someone doesn’t read the room.
However, I find that the advice I receive when sharing my pregnancy news doesn’t bother me as much as it might for others. I’m not interested in advice from those who can’t take a hint, but when someone shares their insights from a genuine, supportive place, I genuinely appreciate it. It shows they care, even if their suggestions aren’t a perfect fit for me.
More often than not, I’ve discovered that unsolicited advice has come at just the right moment. If I had shut myself off from different perspectives, I would have missed out on valuable insights.
It’s common for new moms to overlook the advice of older mothers, assuming it’s outdated. While this can sometimes be true—given how quickly recommendations evolve—many nurturing practices remain timeless. For example, a soothing lullaby can still calm a baby today, just as it did decades ago. And the cabbage leaves your great-aunt used for discomfort? They might still do the trick today. Even that creative bath hack from the ‘80s—using a laundry basket instead of a baby tub—holds some merit.
Before dismissing advice outright, it’s essential to consider the intentions behind it. Some people may be overzealous, but the majority are likely trying to help. When another mother reassures you that it’s perfectly fine to take a break from your baby, she’s not challenging your parenting style; she’s simply reminding you that self-care is important and that you’re not alone in your struggles.
Furthermore, there are instances where your approach could inadvertently be unsafe. Being open to advice can prevent potential mishaps. For instance, I once installed my newborn’s car seat base incorrectly by using both the latch and the seatbelt, thinking it would be more secure. Months later, a fellow mom in an online group pointed out my mistake. Instead of feeling annoyed by her unsolicited advice, I was grateful—it helped me keep my children safer.
I’m not advocating that you accept every piece of advice that comes your way. If something doesn’t resonate with you, it’s entirely within your rights to disregard it. It’s also crucial to assess the credibility of the source. Some guidelines are universally accepted for safety reasons, and seeking guidance from professionals about crucial topics like vaccinations and safe sleep practices is wise. However, much of parenting is not governed by strict rules, and having an open mind can be one of your greatest assets. You might stumble upon solutions you hadn’t previously considered simply by being receptive to the experiences of others.
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In summary, motherhood is a continuous journey of learning and adaptation, and being open to advice, especially from those who genuinely wish to help, can enrich your experience.