Many people find the thought of venturing out alone in public to be unimaginable. For women, especially, going out solo can feel daunting. However, the issue extends beyond mere safety concerns. Society often instills the belief that relishing one’s own company is somehow inappropriate. The desire to spend time alone has historically been viewed as a defect. Those women who embrace solitude may be judged or pitied, which is deeply unfair.
As I’ve matured, I’ve come to dismiss these outdated perceptions about women spending time alone. For years, I hesitated to go out by myself for fear of judgment from others. But I’ve realized that their opinions no longer hold weight. Coordinating plans with friends can often be a challenge, and I’d rather enjoy an activity on my own terms than miss out simply because I’m waiting for someone else.
Initially, going to the movies alone felt strange to me. I enjoyed having someone to discuss the film with afterward. Yet, each time I take a solo trip to the theater, I wonder why I didn’t do it more frequently. I can go to a matinee, choose my favorite seat, and snuggle in comfortably without feeling guilty. While having someone to share those surprising moments with would be nice, the absence of a companion doesn’t diminish my enjoyment at all.
Studies indicate that discomfort in solitude often stems from a lack of external stimulation and the inability to rely on others to shape our experience, as noted by Dr. Emily Roberts, a researcher in psychology. Likewise, I used to feel uneasy attending concerts alone, despite having been to many since I was twelve. I’d always ended up meeting friends, fearing that a lack of company would lead to boredom. However, after attending my first concert solo, I had a blast! I connected with those around me, but even without that interaction, the experience of seeing the performer live was fulfilling. Now, I’m excitedly planning to attend three concerts on my own—a feat I once would have thought impossible.
Until recently, I hesitated to engage in many activities alone. For instance, I wouldn’t even work out solo. After taking a yoga class with a friend that eventually fell through, I stopped going. However, I’ve now embraced attending yoga classes by myself and often forget that I’m even alone. It’s become a time for self-reflection and connection.
It’s intriguing how some solo activities feel completely natural to me. I can spend hours working in a coffee shop without a second thought. Yet, the idea of dining alone still requires mental preparation. Walking into a restaurant and asking for “a table for one” feels more significant and, at times, intimidating. But this is a challenge I’m determined to overcome.
Embracing solitude can be incredibly beneficial, yet societal norms often lead us to dismiss the importance of alone time. Contrary to popular belief, going out solo doesn’t indicate loneliness; it signifies self-empowerment. As Angela White, a researcher in personal development, points out, choosing solitude can help one discover their true self and interests.
Once you become comfortable with your own company, it can enhance your friendships too. You’ll find that when you’re with friends, you genuinely enjoy their presence rather than simply seeking companionship to avoid being alone. This authenticity strengthens your connections.
Learning to appreciate time spent solo is a gradual process. While I cherish my own company, I still need reminders that engaging in activities alone is perfectly normal. It requires effort and practice, so start small—perhaps treat yourself to coffee, bring a favorite book, and set a timer for thirty minutes. Gradually increase your time, and eventually, treat yourself to a solo movie outing. You might discover that you enjoy your own company far more than you anticipated. For more tips on this journey, check out this insightful post.
In summary, going to the movies alone, along with other solo activities, can be a significant achievement. It allows for personal growth, strengthens friendships, and fosters self-discovery. If you’re hesitant about spending time alone, start small and gradually explore the joys of your own company.