When your father called to share the news that your brother has Down syndrome, time seemed to freeze for a moment. I dropped the phone and sank to the floor, repeating, “This can’t be real, this can’t be real.” My immediate thought was, “Oh no, poor Amelia.” You were my whole world for 16 months, and I relished every moment spent with you—well, maybe I could have done without some of the sleepless nights! I tried to absorb the joy of daily life: the laughter, playing peek-a-boo, and the countless times we read your favorite stories. Yet, when I learned about your brother’s diagnosis, I found myself skipping ahead to your future.
Instead of savoring your first words, I worried about middle school. What if kids teased you for having a brother who was different? What if I became so overwhelmed by his needs that I neglected yours? I fixated on the unfairness of it all. But what I didn’t grasp in those early days was how enriching his diagnosis could be for you.
I later discovered that 97% of kids with a sibling who has Down syndrome feel proud of their brother or sister, and 88% say that their sibling has made them better people. That’s my wish for you, Amelia.
As you witness your brother, Oliver, working hard to achieve what comes easily to you, I hope it teaches you humility. When you’re tempted to judge others by appearances, I pray you think of Oliver and how he faces similar judgments. When life’s little annoyances get you down, I hope you instead feel thankful for your many blessings.
I envision you both learning to appreciate the beauty in everyday moments, living with gratitude, and inspiring each other to love deeply. You might grow up faster than your friends, but I don’t see that as a disadvantage. Because of Oliver, I hope you learn to embrace life’s challenges with courage and maximize your potential. I hope you see beyond the school walls to the larger world and its needs.
So, I’m not sorry that Oliver has Down syndrome. I no longer view it as unfair; in fact, I believe you have a unique advantage because of it. The things that often seem important—popularity, material possessions, physical appearance—pale in comparison to the essence of life: loving and accepting others.
As it says in Galatians 5:6, “…the only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.”
With all my love,
Mom
P.S. Remember, Oliver is incredibly lucky to have you as his sister. You will not only be his friend and protector but also one of his greatest teachers. You possess a kindness like your dad’s and a spirited nature like mine. He is fortunate to have you.
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In summary, while the news of your brother’s diagnosis was shocking, it carries potential lessons and opportunities for growth that could shape your life in profound ways.
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