Last week, my husband and I found ourselves in downtown, where he pulled me close against our minivan and kissed me passionately, as if it were our last moment together. For about 15 seconds, we shared a kiss that was anything but ordinary—lips on lips, the kind that hints at more intimate things to come. It was a bold display of affection, and I have zero regrets about it, even if my mother happened to walk by. (Sorry, Mom!)
I believe in savoring life’s pleasures, whether it’s enjoying a delicious dessert, a fine glass of wine, or simply relishing the connection with my husband. Society often suggests that married couples should limit their public displays of affection (PDA) to quick pecks and occasional hand-holding. I’ve never understood this notion. I felt the same way as a teenager making out with my boyfriend, and my perspective hasn’t changed now that I’m in my 30s with three children.
Why is it that we feel the need to hide our affection unless it’s a grand occasion, like greeting a spouse after a long deployment? In those situations, public affection is celebrated, but show some love for no particular reason, and suddenly, the judgment begins.
I get it: some people are uncomfortable with seeing affection. But what exactly makes them uneasy? Is it the fact that we’re not teenagers? Or perhaps that we look like ordinary parents instead of glamorous stars? Maybe it’s the idea of married people still wanting to connect physically. If the mere thought of my husband and me being intimate offends you, maybe it’s time for a reality check.
Let’s be clear: sex is a natural part of life. Married couples have sex; parents have sex; and people of all shapes, sizes, and backgrounds engage in it. This isn’t the 1950s; there’s no need to hide our desires or affection. So, why not embrace a little innocent PDA if it brings joy? It’s no different from a sweet kiss at the end of a Disney wedding, right?
And yes, some might worry about children witnessing this kind of display. But honestly, kids should see what healthy affection looks like. When they observe their parents showing love, they learn about a secure relationship. They witness that love is not just about words but also about physical attraction, which helps normalize the concept of intimacy. My kids have seen us share more than just a quick kiss, and they’re doing just fine.
I’m not concerned about how others perceive our affectionate moments, whether it’s against a minivan or any other place. It’s part of life, and I’d be more upset if my children saw something inappropriate rather than a loving kiss.
My husband and I enjoy this kind of affection regularly, and we won’t stop anytime soon. So, to those who might be offended, I apologize—well, not really.
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In summary, expressing love openly, even in public, is a healthy and normal part of life. It sets a positive example for children and reinforces the bond between partners. So go ahead, share that kiss without shame!