As a working parent, I often feel like my kids are missing out on that quintessential summer experience that everyone raves about. I can’t help but roll my eyes at the notion that “you only have 18 magical summers with your children.” I mean, how many times have we heard this? Even once is too much.
I completely understand the sentiment—childhood flies by. Blink, and your little ones transform from playful toddlers into teenagers. The moments spent in kiddie pools, with sticky fingers and dirty feet, are fleeting. As a working parent, those precious 12 weeks of summer feel like they vanish even quicker, especially when my time with the kids is mostly confined to weekends. Realistically, we might only have around 24 days of summer fun each year, which includes squeezing in chores, grocery shopping, meal prep, and maybe, just maybe, some much-needed self-care.
The Reality of Summer
Let’s be real: just because school is out doesn’t mean life stops. I still have to manage the bills, grocery shopping, and the never-ending task of feeding the kids—something I dread.
I wish it were different. Summer is when the guilt hits the hardest, as I long to be outside making memories with my kids, roasting marshmallows, and letting them run wild. But that’s not what works best for our family. It’s also important to acknowledge stay-at-home parents, who juggle household chores, errands, and yard work while kids at home constantly complain of boredom or ask to watch TV for the umpteenth time. They, too, feel the weight of creating a perfect summer, often while on a budget that limits expensive outings or crafts.
Finding Balance
So, back to that eye roll. The saying “you only have 18 summers” overwhelms me because it’s painfully true. What would be more reassuring is someone saying, “Yes, you have 18 summers, but it’s going to be okay.” There are positives to look forward to—like the future where I can lounge by the pool with a book or enjoy a glass of wine in peace. And while it’s sad to think about those summers ending, it’s also about raising happy, productive adults who will hopefully thrive in the world.
Making Memories
When it comes to summer activities, I definitely want to make memories, but the pressure to create an “amazing” summer is unrealistic. I’ll take the kids camping, visit the beach, go to amusement parks, and enjoy those classic summer evenings with popsicles and sprinklers. I might even write down our plans and create a bucket list, which I will proudly share because it feels good to be organized.
Conclusion
Ultimately, the key is to remember that we’re all doing our best. Whether you have an elaborate list of activities or simply enjoy some downtime watching your kids play in the sprinkler, your summer will be just fine. So go ahead, mama, and enjoy the moments you have.
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In summary, the pressures of summer can feel overwhelming for working parents, but it’s essential to embrace the time we have with our children, even if it doesn’t fit the ideal. We’re all doing great, and every moment counts.