As I sit down to write, I find myself wishing we could share a moment together in my cozy living room, sipping tea and connecting on a deeper level. I yearn for the warmth of your presence, the comfort of holding your hand, and the intimacy of sharing our thoughts face to face. While I may not be able to express these feelings in person, I hope to convey the sentiments I hold in my heart through these words.
You and I share a unique bond—a connection that transcends words, rooted in an experience that only we can truly understand: we have both undergone an abortion. It’s important to recognize that although our experiences may share similarities, each story is distinct. I am not here to question your journey or to rank our emotions; my purpose is simply to extend love and affirmation to you. Your feelings are valid, and you owe no one an explanation for them.
Regardless of when your experience occurred—be it today or decades ago—how you feel is entirely your own, and it holds significance. So let us begin with this truth: you are inherently good. You are not defined by your choices, nor are you diminished by them. You are full of light and worth, regardless of the circumstances surrounding your abortion.
A friend once transformed my perspective with a single phrase. When I labeled parts of my life as “ugly,” she gently reminded me that every aspect of my story belongs at the table of acceptance. This is what I wish for you: every facet of your journey is welcome here. You are not broken; rather, you are a tapestry of experiences, each thread valuable and integral to who you are.
For Those Who Feel Relief
To those of you who feel relief after your abortion, know that I see you. There’s no need to apologize for your feelings; embrace your sense of relief and acknowledge your reasons. You deserve to enjoy your life without guilt.
For Those Who Grieve
If you are grappling with grief, I empathize deeply. The burden of loneliness in your sorrow is immense, especially when society fails to validate your feelings. You are strong, and your grief is legitimate. You have every right to mourn, no matter what others may suggest. Let yourself feel that loss, cry if you need to, and know that you don’t have to justify your emotions.
For Those Experiencing Regret
For those experiencing regret, I understand that sentiment all too well. The phrase “no regrets” can feel hollow when grappling with heavy emotions. I promise never to dismiss your regret or urge you to simply let go. Your feelings are valid here, but I do ask one thing: please forgive yourself. Embrace the compassionate side of yourself that made the choice you did, and let go of unnecessary self-punishment.
For Those Struggling with Shame
And if you’re struggling with shame, I feel for you. Shame is a heavy load to bear and does not reflect your true self. As Brene Brown wisely states, shame thrives on secrecy, silence, and judgment, and sadly, abortion often falls victim to these shadows. However, sharing your story can alleviate shame, allowing it to dissolve in the warmth of empathy.
How often have you found a safe space to share your abortion story? If you’ve kept it hidden, I’m sorry for the times your shame has been amplified by silence. Remember this: you are worthy of love and kindness, and your story deserves to be heard.
Embracing Your Journey
Whether your abortion felt like an easy choice or a difficult one, it’s all valid. You might experience a mix of emotions, and that’s perfectly okay. You don’t need to bear those feelings alone; we can walk this journey together. Give your feelings space to exist outside yourself—whether you share them with others, jot them down in a journal, or whisper them in quiet moments.
If you need a supportive environment to express these emotions, I genuinely want to create that space for you. What can I do to help? I truly care about you and want to build a connection based on trust and understanding.
Here, you are safe. You and your abortion are welcome. Every part of your journey has a place at this table, and nothing about it is unworthy. So come join me; let’s share this moment together.
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In summary, your feelings surrounding your abortion are valid, whether they encompass relief, grief, regret, or shame. You are not alone, and I am here to support you.