Over recent years, there has been a significant awakening among white women in America regarding issues of racial injustice. The alarming incidents of police violence against unarmed Black individuals, the revival of hate groups, and the current political climate have prompted many to seek a deeper understanding of systemic discrimination. While this newfound awareness is commendable, I must express my fatigue with the expectation that Black women should serve as educators on these matters.
My social media, email, and text messages have been inundated with well-meaning inquiries from white women asking if certain behaviors or situations can be classified as racism, or expressing shock at the severity of the issues faced by minorities. Though I appreciate the recognition of these challenges, I do not wish to act as your personal guide on this journey. Unless you are compensating me for my expertise on a panel or speaking engagement, please refrain from seeking explanations.
The reason is simple: I am navigating implicit biases, overt discrimination, and the constant threat of violence due to the color of my skin every single day. I do not have the emotional bandwidth to help you process the harsh reality that this land has been built on exclusion for people like us.
I constantly manage the fear that arises from everyday situations. For instance, if I have a service issue at a restaurant, I must carefully modulate my tone and expressions to avoid being perceived as the “angry Black woman.” The last time I was pulled over for a minor traffic violation, panic surged through me, not because I was breaking the law, but because I knew that a single misstep could escalate dangerously. Even in vulnerable moments, like being pregnant and unwell, I felt compelled to signal my condition to law enforcement, fearing that a simple traffic stop could lead to a tragic misunderstanding.
These realities are burdens that weigh heavily on me as a Black woman in America, leaving little room for me to nurture your newfound awareness. I see videos of white individuals screaming at police without consequence, while Black lives continue to be lost in similar encounters. This contrast is stark and deeply unsettling.
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Instead of trying to insert yourself into our narrative, lend an ear to those of us sharing our experiences. Engage in discussions with your friends about the necessary steps toward equity and justice. The emotional labor of navigating this journey does not need to rest on our shoulders alone.
In summary, Black women have long been advocates for change and awareness. It’s time for others to step up, listen, and learn without expecting us to carry the weight of education.