Hey there,
I totally get it. Trust me, I do. As someone who has experienced the challenges of divorce firsthand, I understand the feelings of hurt, fear, and anger that can come with it. I realize that my presence in your lives means that the concept of “family” will forever be different — two homes, two sets of toothbrushes, and double the holiday celebrations.
But let’s take a moment to appreciate the bright side: you are incredibly fortunate. You have three adults who genuinely care about you. Three parents who are committed to ensuring you have everything you need, ready to listen to you and provide comfort when times get tough. You have three people who will go above and beyond to support your hobbies and make sure you feel included, striving to give you the most normal childhood possible despite any challenges.
Also, it’s important for you to know that, even though I didn’t bring you into this world, everything I do for you comes from a place of true kindness — because I care about you. It might not be the same kind of love your mom and dad have, and that’s perfectly okay. I recognize that whatever I say or do might not always sit well with you, especially since I’m not your “real mom.” You already have two parents, and you probably don’t need an additional adult telling you what to do. I understand that.
Believe it or not, I try my best to respect those boundaries, but they can often feel blurry. And to be honest, there are times when I feel frustrated about not having control over my own life and schedule. Yes, sometimes you frustrate me too (gasp!).
So, the next time you roll your eyes at me for asking you to clean up your dish or to wear a helmet when biking (okay, I might not use that kind of language with you), just remember that this whole situation is daunting for me too, and I’m doing my utmost to navigate it. I don’t expect you to feel the same way about me, or even to like me.
All I ask is for a little understanding, because this isn’t easy. Seriously, this is not easy at all.
I get it, truly.
Hugs,
Your Stepmom
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Summary:
This heartfelt message from a stepmom to her bonus kids expresses understanding of their complex feelings about family changes due to divorce. It emphasizes the positive aspects of having three caring parents and seeks empathy for the challenges she faces in her role. The stepmom acknowledges the blurred boundaries and her desire for understanding, while also sharing useful links related to home insemination and pregnancy.