My son sees the world as filled with friends. Whether it’s cartoon characters, strangers in stores, or even insects, he never questions their companionship. Instead of asking, “Who is this?” he eagerly inquires, “Who is this friend?”
In public, he greets everyone he encounters with a warm “hi.” He’s the child who approaches a complete stranger in a waiting room and introduces himself without hesitation. Every little girl in a dress is a princess in his eyes, and he treats them accordingly.
Despite his unwavering belief in friendship, my son doesn’t have any real friends. After my partner joined the Navy, we relocated over 1,100 miles away from our close-knit circle of friends and family. Prior to the move, my only mom friend was his only source of interaction with peers his age.
With no familiar faces around, I took him to the playground in hopes of fostering connections. I lost count of the times, between the ages of two and almost four, that he ran over to another child to play. Unfortunately, I also lost count of the moments when those kids would turn away, ignore him, or be outright unkind. It’s truly heart-wrenching to witness your child being the one left out.
His larger stature compared to his peers doesn’t help either. He towers over kids his age and is often not on the same developmental level, making it difficult for him to fit in, despite his friendly disposition.
As time went on, our visits to the playground became less frequent. I couldn’t bear to watch him face rejection repeatedly, seeing him play alone while other kids formed groups and shared laughter. Eventually, he stopped trying to engage with others and accepted his role as the outsider, leading us to stop our visits altogether.
Yet, even without playmates, he continues to believe that everyone is his friend. He remains optimistic and resilient. I hold onto the hope that one day, he’ll be the one to welcome a new child or someone who doesn’t quite fit in. I wish for him to be the reason no child feels left out.
Though my son may not have friends in the traditional sense, he embodies the spirit of friendship for everyone around him.
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Summary:
In this article, Jessica Lane shares her experience of raising a son who perceives everyone as a friend, despite his struggles to find actual playmates after relocating. The heartwarming narrative highlights the challenges of socialization for children and the importance of resilience and optimism in the face of adversity.