Dear Moms of One,
I understand your feelings all too well. Like you, I shudder when I hear terms like “only child” or “only child syndrome.” It’s disheartening to witness others discussing the supposed necessity of siblings, often suggesting that not having another child is selfish.
Perhaps you are a mom of one due to secondary infertility or maybe you made it through a costly round of IVF. You might have faced long struggles to conceive your first child, making the thought of starting over daunting. Some may have endured difficult births or battled postpartum depression. For others, it might simply be a matter of finances or the belief that one child is perfect for your family. Whatever the reason, remember that it’s absolutely fine to embrace your family as it is.
Whether you believe one child completes your family or you secretly wish for another child that you couldn’t have, it’s perfectly okay. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your choice.
I’ve been there too, navigating those awkward conversations where well-meaning acquaintances impose their unsolicited opinions on your family structure. You might have felt your heart sink as they aired their concerns:
- “You need to give them a sibling!”
- “Who will share the burden of caring for you when you’re older?”
- “Won’t they be lonely?”
- “You make beautiful kids; you should definitely have more!”
- “You can’t ‘afford’ it? Just go for it; it’ll all work out!”
- “Can’t you see how much he or she wants a brother or sister? Poor kid!”
- “The second one is much easier, trust me!”
I know how isolating it can feel when society seems to overlook families of three. But contrary to popular belief, your child is not missing out; they are thriving in a loving environment. Siblings do not ensure companionship, just as being an only child does not guarantee loneliness. Research even suggests that only children often become more independent, creative, and driven. Why does society tend to spotlight the negatives while neglecting to recognize the strengths of diverse family dynamics?
The obsession with sibling dynamics often reveals more about others’ insecurities than it does about your choices as a parent. Ultimately, whether your journey to parenthood led you to one child by choice or circumstance, know that you are not alone, and neither is your child. The decision on how many children to have is deeply personal, and frankly, it’s nobody’s business but yours. You are just as courageous as any mother out there.
You are enough, and so is your one and only.
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Summary
Embracing the choice of having one child can be a journey filled with unsolicited advice and societal pressures. Understanding that each family’s dynamics are unique and that love can thrive in any structure is essential. You are not alone in your journey, and it’s perfectly fine to celebrate your one child as a complete family.
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