Every day, I carry my 4-year-old son, Ethan, into preschool, and the truth is, I often find myself lifting him in various situations. When he asks to be picked up, I do so without hesitation. Sure, we sometimes attract puzzled glances and overhear remarks like, “That kid looks heavy!” or “Isn’t he getting too old for that?” Some people even question whether I’m spoiling him.
At over 40 pounds, he certainly appears older and bigger than his age. However, the reasons for my choice to carry him go far beyond mere convenience.
Enjoying the Moment
First and foremost, I genuinely enjoy it. To me, carrying him is more of a gift than a burden. The feel of his small frame against me, the scent of his hair, and the way his head rests on my shoulder create a sense of peace that’s hard to replicate.
Providing Comfort
Moreover, Ethan finds comfort in it. The embrace of a parent is a source of security for a child. If he seeks that closeness and I can provide it, why would I deny him that?
Recognizing the Fleeting Nature of Childhood
I also recognize that this time is fleeting. As he grows, the moments when he wants to be held will diminish. I cherish these instances, knowing that one day he’ll prefer to stride into school on his own, leaving behind these tender moments of connection.
Savoring Every Experience
Additionally, Ethan is my youngest child. As I navigate this chapter of parenthood, I want to soak in every experience of having a little one. I’m savoring the times he wants to be close, fully aware that this is my last opportunity to carry a small child.
Staying Active
Beyond the emotional benefits, lifting my preschooler serves as a workout. With my busy schedule, I often miss gym workouts, so carrying my growing son helps me stay active.
Ignoring the Judgments
And honestly, I don’t let the judgments of others bother me. If they could see things from my perspective, I believe they would understand my choices. I firmly believe I’m not spoiling him; instead, I’m responding to his needs and nurturing our bond. In just a few years, Ethan will likely want independence, and I want to relish these moments while they last.
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Conclusion
In summary, carrying my son is a source of joy and connection for both of us. It’s a fleeting privilege that I intend to embrace fully, regardless of what others may think.