As we approach another Mother’s Day, I find myself needing to share a rather candid confession. First and foremost, let me express my deep love for my mom—she means the world to me. However, when this special day rolls around, it seems to revolve entirely around my mother and mother-in-law, while my role as a mother to four wonderful children goes unnoticed. Am I the only one who feels this way?
For the past quarter-century, I’ve hosted Mother’s Day brunches, inviting my mom, extended family, my mother-in-law, and her relatives—typically a gathering of 15 to 20 people—all at my home. Yes, there have been a few instances where we celebrated at my sister-in-law’s place in the desert and a couple of less-than-ideal outings at restaurants. But time and again, everyone agrees it’s much more enjoyable to celebrate at my house.
While I appreciate the compliments, it often feels like a double-edged sword. After the whirlwind of planning, sending invitations, cleaning the house, decorating, buying gifts, grocery shopping, prepping meals, and arranging drinks, I find myself just trying to survive the day. And to add to the mix, my youngest son’s birthday often coincides with Mother’s Day—just another occasion to juggle!
I do want to give credit to my husband and kids for helping with the cleanup, but usually, I collapse into a chair, a mimosa in hand, trying not to doze off. My mother and mother-in-law have been incredible influences in my life, and I owe them so much. Yet, it seems everyone expects me to handle the day’s festivities.
This year, however, is different. Our youngest son is studying abroad in Italy, and my husband and I will be joining him for some traveling. And guess what? We’re skipping Mother’s Day celebrations altogether! I can’t express how happy and relieved I am to be free from brunch planning. I’ve happily informed the family that someone else will have to procure the three varieties of quiche—vegetarian, gluten-free, and applewood bacon—along with Chinese Chicken Salad (chicken on the side, please), assorted bagels, fruit bowls, and of course, champagne.
As I sip a crisp glass of Orvieto Classico while indulging in delicious antipasti, I’ll be toasting to all of you from abroad. Ciao!
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In summary, while Mother’s Day traditionally centers around honoring our mothers, it’s essential to consider the mothers who also deserve recognition. This year, I’m embracing a well-deserved break from the usual celebrations.