You might be surprised to learn that I was somewhat of a late bloomer when it came to social media. I never engaged in AOL chat rooms, and by the time I ventured into MySpace, that platform was already fading. However, everything shifted for me after the arrival of my daughter eight years ago. I began blogging and felt the urge to connect more deeply with friends and family scattered across the country.
Initially, social media was merely a playful space with people I knew in real life. My friends list consisted of those I interacted with daily, and I was cautious about accepting requests from strangers. But now, the landscape has drastically changed. We’ve lowered our defenses, and I often find myself scrolling through my feed wondering, “Who is this person?” It’s truly astonishing!
Social media has become an integral part of our lives, transitioning from the background to the forefront of our daily existence. Yet, in the real world, people mature and outgrow their childish behaviors. While schoolyard drama may persist in memory, adulthood usually brings a sense of perspective that highlights the pettiness of such grievances.
In this new “social media is life” era, however, it feels like we’re regressing. We often see a mob mentality emerge, with people banding together to target others. Old-school name-calling has reemerged, and new forms of passive-aggressive behavior are rampant.
Honestly, I’m tired of it, and I find it deeply embarrassing. I’ve observed grown women, mothers even, engage in lengthy disputes over something as trivial as Instagram followers. Seriously? Who cares about Instagram followers? Yet, I admit to being glued to my screen, watching the drama unfold like I was munching popcorn during a Michael Jackson meme moment.
Even more cringe-worthy are the times I’ve jumped into the fray myself, posting outrageous status updates or tweets. I’ve instigated passionate exchanges with individuals I’ve never met in real life. What is wrong with me?
Recently, I posted a status on Facebook that simply advocated for kindness. Lately, I’ve been more cautious about what I share, feeling a bit self-conscious about my social media presence. I carefully worded my message to avoid any potential conflict, but someone still decided to confront me about an imagined slight. When I deleted her comment, she lashed out at me, using profanity on my page—where I’m connected with my pastor, colleagues, friends, and other respected individuals. It was mortifying!
Imagine trying to explain to someone from your Bible study group that you don’t really know the woman who just cursed you out online, despite having been “friends” for years. We’ve never met for dinner or exchanged phone numbers, yet my online actions were so offensive to her that it prompted an outburst. It’s baffling and downright strange.
Given that my job revolves around the Internet, I’m more attuned to social media than many people in my life. While I appreciate the valuable connections and opportunities it has afforded me, I’m starting to question whether I want to be so immersed in a world where fighting with strangers is considered normal. Could I use my time in a more meaningful way offline? Is there a better method for connecting with people and expanding my horizons than endlessly scrolling and liking posts?
I don’t have the answers just yet, but for now, I’m stepping back from social media. I’m trimming my friends list and focusing on genuinely getting to know those who appear in my feed. The mute, unfriend, and block options are in full swing. After all, I didn’t endure four years of high school just to relive it on Facebook.
Man, I really miss MySpace.
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In summary, social media today often feels reminiscent of the high school experience, replete with drama and conflict. While it offers opportunities for connection, it also invites a regression into childish behavior that can be exhausting. As I take a step back, I’m reminded of the importance of fostering genuine relationships both online and offline.