If I could sit down with my younger self, a newly minted mom, I would have so much to share. I would urge her to let go of her worries, to trust her instincts and intuition. I would remind her that caring for herself isn’t selfish; rather, it’s a necessity. After all, we can’t pour from an empty cup.
I would emphasize that even on the toughest days, when getting out of bed feels impossible, she possesses numerous strengths. The longer I embark on this journey of motherhood, the more I notice the countless moments where mothers are tirelessly caring for their families, often without recognition. It’s incredibly uplifting, yet many moms struggle to see their own strengths.
Our talents often go unacknowledged, both by our families and by ourselves. This becomes painfully evident when we fall ill, feel exhausted, or step away for work, revealing just how much we contribute behind the scenes. It’s common for mothers to overlook their own strengths. In my experience as a psychologist, I’ve seen many moms squirm at the idea of identifying their own abilities. Ironically, it seems easier for us to dwell on our shortcomings and mistakes instead of celebrating what we do well.
Many mothers are entrenched in a cycle of guilt, anxiety, and stress, rarely taking a moment to recognize their successes. Have you noticed how, when one mom compliments another, she often deflects by pointing out her flaws instead of embracing the praise? This dynamic must change.
Recognizing our strengths isn’t always second nature; it requires practice. As I’ve matured and gained experience in motherhood, I’ve grown more comfortable acknowledging my strengths. In the early days, when I was a new mom to twins, I was overwhelmed with doubt about my capabilities. It was the encouragement from my husband, friends, and even my pediatrician that helped me recognize my value. Hearing affirmations like “Your daughters are thriving” or “You’re doing an amazing job” gradually helped me see my strengths.
Consider this: What are your strengths as a mother? If you’re unsure, think about what you do well or what compliments you often receive. Everyone has unique strengths, regardless of their career path or whether they create Pinterest-perfect crafts.
Recognizing your abilities is crucial. It builds confidence and supports you during challenging moments. Many mothers hesitate to think positively about themselves, fearing it might come off as boastful. However, there’s a fundamental difference between self-acknowledgment and arrogance.
When encouraging your child to learn something new, you naturally highlight their strengths. Extend the same compassion to yourself. Acknowledging your strengths in motherhood is essential for your well-being.
I encourage you to take a moment to write down five of your strengths. If you’re having difficulty, ask your child, partner, or friends for their insights. Keep this list close to your heart. Remember, your strengths don’t have to be monumental; they can be simple acts of love, dedication, and resilience, especially on days when you’re feeling depleted. Revisit your list often, especially during tough parenting moments.
Recognizing our strengths is the first step to embracing the gifts we offer to our families.
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