Parenting
The other morning, my son, Jake, sluggishly opened the silverware drawer at 8:58 a.m. to grab utensils for his breakfast, despite my reminders that we were leaving at 9:00 a.m. on the dot. After witnessing his procrastination, I lost my cool for a full five minutes. He casually suggested I calm down, skipped breakfast, and sulked. But in that moment, his opinion didn’t faze me at all.
Just an hour before, as he lounged on the couch watching cartoons, I had already reminded him, for the second time, to prepare his meal. He assured me he would. Twenty minutes later, after finishing my own breakfast and heading upstairs to get ready, I reiterated my request in a tone that was less than serene.
I came downstairs just two minutes before our departure time to find him finally jumping into action. “No way,” I said. “You’ve had ample time to do this, Jake. I’ve asked you repeatedly. We’re out of time.” At fourteen and towering over six feet, there was no way I could physically make him eat, but I could enforce consequences if he didn’t follow through.
“It’ll take just a second,” he insisted. However, after years of experience, I knew that “just a second” with him often turned into an eternity. He has a talent for tripping over things and spilling food, making any task far more time-consuming than he predicted. Plus, I dreaded the mess I knew he would leave behind.
As he opened the silverware drawer, I grasped the door handle tightly, nearly breaking it in my frustration. “Get your coat and head out the door—we’re leaving right now!” Yes, I was yelling. Yes, he questioned why I always had to go off the deep end. And yes, that only further fueled my anger.
Here’s the reality: while I feel guilty about losing my temper at times, it often seems like my only option to convey to my kids that I’m serious. This battle between us has persisted since Jake was a toddler, and my other two kids aren’t immune to testing my limits either. It’s as if they think, “Mom isn’t mad yet; I can keep pushing until I see that vein on her forehead.” That’s when I go from calm to furious in a heartbeat.
The unfortunate truth is that they only notice the moments when I explode over seemingly trivial matters like cleaning up dishes or rushing out the door. They conveniently forget all the previous reminders and conversations we’ve had. They don’t think it’s fair that I lose it so easily, but what’s truly unfair is that moms around the world often have to resort to yelling just to get their kids to cooperate.
I genuinely strive to maintain my composure. I dislike feeling like I need to shout to get my kids moving, but they have a remarkable ability to push me to my boiling point. It seems illogical that they would choose to ignore me and endure the fallout of my frustration rather than simply comply with my requests the first time.
Fortunately, I’ve discovered a strategy that has made a significant difference in our daily routine. No mom wants to start her day with a sore throat from shouting at her kids to hurry up. Recently, when Jake asked me for a ride to his friend’s house, emphasizing the importance of being on time to meet others at the skate park, we were running late, and I was distracted scrolling through social media.
As he stood by the door, growing increasingly frustrated, I asked him how he felt. “I’m anxious and really mad at you. Why are you being so mean?” he replied. I explained that I wasn’t being mean; I wanted him to understand the stress I endure every day when trying to get him out the door. “If you can be on time for me, I’ll be on time for you. Deal?”
Nothing ignites a teenager’s urgency like the fear of being late to see friends. This simple adjustment has improved our mornings significantly, making life easier for both of us.
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In summary, while it’s easy to overlook the underlying struggles that lead to a mom losing her cool, it’s essential to acknowledge the continuous challenges parents face in seeking cooperation from their kids.