This piece is for all the mothers out there who enjoy spending a little money. These women are my kindred spirits who understand that retail therapy is not only real but can also be quite costly.
Motherhood is no walk in the park. We pour ourselves into our families day in and day out, often leaving us utterly drained by evening.
So, what rejuvenates me? A trip to TARGET.
I often fantasize about taking a solo trip to Target. Yes, I’ll indulge in a Starbucks treat. And you better believe I’ll take the time to browse through clothing without kids clinging to me.
I even get the chance to try things on. In a fitting room. Alone. (Of course, why wouldn’t I?) And yes, I will savor every moment.
Sometimes, self-care manifests as a late-night Amazon binge. And sometimes, that binge is fueled by the box of wine I picked up from Target. It’s a bit of a slippery slope.
This cycle is relentless: I shop to ease stress, which tightens my budget, creating more stress, leading me to shop more to cope. Rinse and repeat.
Logically, I know I should set a sensible budget and adhere to it. I understand the importance of saving. Yet, here’s a list of reasons I still find myself shopping:
- I just received my paycheck.
- It’s raining outside.
- It’s a beautiful sunny day.
- I’m feeling down and need a pick-me-up.
- I’m in a celebratory mood.
- Stepping on the scale left me traumatized.
- It’s the weekend.
- It’s a weekday.
- We could face global disaster at any moment (thanks, current events).
- Something is on sale.
- Shopping simply brings me joy.
- I’m purchasing gifts for others, so it’s justifiable.
That last point is my favorite excuse. Sure, I occasionally treat myself, but most of my spending goes toward items for my kids or the family as a whole. (Yes, I see you, Instant Pot.)
When I indulge in something for myself, it’s likely a nicer shampoo or a slightly more expensive mascara. It’s hardly ever a lavish splurge. If anything, I’m lucky to get a new pair of yoga pants before the old ones become completely threadbare.
Before anyone jumps to conclusions in the comments, I earn my own money and I’m aware that this is a first-world problem. But I genuinely enjoy spending on my children.
I typically buy them clothes and shoes, ensuring they have what they need. I can’t resist getting them toys when possible, even though we don’t need more clutter in our home; the joy it brings them is worth it.
It’s the ability to do nice things for them that truly fulfills me, and that’s where my tendency to overspend originates. Well, that and those rare moments of solitude away from the house.
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Summary
Shopping provides a necessary escape for many mothers, allowing them to recharge in a hectic world. However, the cycle of spending to alleviate stress can create financial strain. While self-care through shopping can bring joy, it’s essential to find a balance and ensure that spending aligns with one’s budget.