Yes, I voiced it aloud, ready for the reactions. But let me explain my perspective. This year, my children moved up to upper elementary school, and as I attended the parent orientation, I felt a mix of anxiety and excitement about the changes. The principal presented his PowerPoint, highlighting three critical areas: safety, staff, and, of course, missed school days.
As soon as that topic appeared, I could feel my friends glance in my direction, stifling chuckles as I put on my stern “don’t mess with mom” expression. I fully understand that there are laws about school attendance, and I’m not advocating for letting my children skip school for a day of lounging in front of the TV. But let’s not forget—I am their parent. I carried them for nine months, nurtured them, and took on the countless responsibilities that come with raising them. I provide their meals, ensure they have clothes, and drive them to practices like a racecar driver.
I handle their illnesses, navigate tantrums, and enforce those unpopular rules about eating vegetables. And yes, I take them out of school when it feels right for our family. I recognize there will be parents who frown upon my choices and teachers who might gossip about me, but their opinions are secondary to my children’s well-being. I only remove them from school when I genuinely believe that the benefits outweigh the drawbacks.
Each year, I meet with their teachers to reassure them of my commitment to my kids’ education. I emphasize their hard work, kindness, and respectfulness. Education is undeniably important; however, in my home, family takes precedence. This means that when an opportunity arises for us to create lasting memories—whether it’s a family trip or a special gathering with distant relatives—we seize it, regardless of whether it aligns with school breaks like Presidents’ Day or Spring Break.
I strive to be considerate and give ample notice for any absences. I request assignments that they can complete while away and assure teachers that any work missed will be finished promptly upon our return. I know that as my children get older, this might become more complicated, but I will always prioritize what is best for them—without being dictated by the academic calendar.
Spending time together as a family is invaluable, and I believe that experiential learning is unparalleled. Is it more enlightening to read about Roman history or to stand in the Colosseum? Is it better to watch a video on glaciers or to hike on one? Engaging with the world through travel fosters empathy and understanding, as well as promotes adaptability—essential life skills.
Learning doesn’t stop at the trip; from researching destinations to planning itineraries and journaling experiences, the opportunities for growth are endless. My children even create presentations about what they learned to share with their classmates.
As a mother, my role is to ensure my kids are safe, loved, and educated. If they attend school for 160 days instead of 180 but gain invaluable experiences, such as a day with their 97-year-old great-grandmother reminiscing about her childhood icebox or enjoying gelato in Italy, I consider it a win. That’s why I feel no guilt about choosing a family calendar over a school calendar.
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In summary, while some may disagree with my choice to prioritize family experiences over strict adherence to school attendance, I believe that the lessons learned through these unique experiences are irreplaceable.