It’s troubling that there exists a network of women in journalism who have been conditioned to ignore inappropriate behavior as a method of survival within their careers. Why do we accept that being subjected to discomfort, objectification, or harassment—whether in person or online—is merely “part of the job”?
It’s unacceptable that during orientation at a news station, new hires are greeted with pepper spray and warnings about a so-called “creepy guy” to avoid. I’m tired of dismissing these issues. The #MeToo movement has made me realize that by failing to confront this behavior, I am inadvertently endorsing it.
As I look at my young son, I am committed to fostering a sense of kindness, respect, and integrity within him. I want him to appreciate the strength and independence of women and to understand the importance of standing up for himself and others. However, the reality is that he will be raised in a world rife with temptations and poor role models. From the pervasive sexual content on social media to easily accessible pornography, there will be countless messages that contradict the values I hope to instill.
So today, I am setting aside my worries about being perceived as “overreacting” and vowing to discuss the implications of #MeToo openly. When he is older and the moment presents itself, we will engage in these dialogues. Will they be uncomfortable? Absolutely. But I believe it’s crucial that teen boys learn about harassment from someone they trust implicitly—I hope to be that person. Additionally, I want him to know that if he ever encounters a troubling situation, he can come to me without fear of judgment.
Throughout my ten years in television news, I have been fortunate to evade the most egregious forms of harassment. Many of my colleagues, however, have not shared the same fate. Some have needed to obtain restraining orders or involve law enforcement after being inundated with daily disturbing messages. Did you know that local TV anchors rank among the most stalked professions? This unfortunate reality stems from our efforts to appear accessible and friendly. A piece in Psychology Today elaborates on this phenomenon well.
I managed to deflect some unwanted attention by often mentioning my marriage, which signaled that I was “taken” and therefore less appealing to some. It’s important for my son to understand that even non-criminal harassment can have significant effects and may lead to more serious offenses.
Being in the public eye does not mean that I am open to inappropriate commentary. For example, when I share a nostalgic photo from my college cheerleading days, it does not grant anyone the right to send explicit messages about what they wish to do with me. Comments like “nice ass” or “nice rack” are not compliments; they are disrespectful and unwelcome. Moreover, I won’t be fulfilling anyone’s fantasies by sending pictures of my feet!
Harassment is also prevalent in public settings. I asked some of my fellow broadcasters to share their experiences, and while I won’t disclose their names to respect their privacy, their stories speak volumes. One of them recounted a particularly disturbing encounter at a local business expo, where a man cornered her and described his inappropriate fantasies. Another shared her mortifying experience at a charity event, where a man made vulgar remarks about her appearance as she prepared for her role in a dunk tank.
Online harassment is just as rampant, often under the guise of anonymity. It’s disheartening to see female broadcasters facing daily attacks simply for doing their jobs. If someone dislikes the media, that’s their prerogative, but it doesn’t justify the use of derogatory language. I want my son to understand that a computer screen does not provide a shield from decency; if you wouldn’t say something to my face, don’t say it online.
It’s worth noting that the vast majority of viewers I encounter are respectful and supportive, and I cherish those connections. However, the negative interactions overshadow the positive ones, and we must no longer tolerate them.
As a television personality, the expectation is often to remain polite and agreeable, even in the face of disrespect. However, the #MeToo movement has encouraged a shift in perspective. There is power in solidarity, and we are becoming more assertive in defending ourselves against verbal assaults.
I genuinely hope this empowerment continues. It’s time we stop dismissing our collective experiences, no matter how small they may seem. Ignoring harassment only perpetuates the cycle.
So, my dear son, regardless of what society may suggest, remember these truths:
- People on TV have feelings too.
- Compliments should come from a place of kindness, not desire.
- No matter what a woman wears, she is never “asking for it.”
- A warm hello or a genuine question is the best way to initiate a conversation.
- If you’re unsure how a comment will be received, it’s probably best left unsaid.
- Trust your instincts.
- And when in doubt, always ask your mother. I love you and will always provide you with honest guidance.
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Summary
In this reflection, the author emphasizes the necessity of addressing the #MeToo movement’s implications and raising a son who respects women and understands the importance of consent. Through personal anecdotes and shared experiences from colleagues, the piece underscores the pervasive nature of harassment in both public and private spheres. It advocates for open conversations about these issues, aiming to equip the next generation with the knowledge to foster mutual respect and understanding.