Here’s a little tidbit: I haven’t penned a single blog entry about marriage since my engagement, and the reason is straightforward—I feel completely unqualified to discuss it.
My partner, Jamie, and I recently marked five years of marriage. While it may seem like a modest milestone in the grand scheme of things, it’s a significant achievement for us.
What I’ve Discovered in Five Years
So, what have I discovered in these five years of matrimony? If you’re still with me, I assume you’re curious.
After five years of marriage, I’ve come to realize that I truly know very little about what it means to be married. All of my preconceived notions and idealistic visions of what my husband should be and how I should behave as a wife were largely unrealistic.
Now, don’t misunderstand me—perhaps your marriage is everything you envisioned it to be. If you’ve been married for more than a couple of years and that resonates with you, I’d love to hear your insights; I’m all ears.
The Tough Lessons
One of the toughest lessons for me has been accepting that while we love each other unconditionally, liking each other isn’t always a given (believe me, I’ve tried). This sentiment goes both ways.
The charming little quirks that captivated us during our courtship and early days of marriage eventually become less endearing. We’ve matured and evolved as individuals—some changes have been beneficial, while others highlight areas where we still need growth.
We’ve faced our share of challenges—some typical and others that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. We are flawed individuals navigating an imperfect marriage.
Celebrating Five Years
Yet here we are, celebrating five years together. It’s demanding, I won’t sugar-coat it and pretend our marriage is always idyllic.
It’s not a constant fairytale. It’s not always joyful. It’s not always beautiful. It’s not always romantic. It’s not always blissful. But it is incredibly, undeniably real. This man—he knows every facet of my being, both the admirable and the not-so-great parts within. He understands my thoughts, my moments of judgment, my insecurities, and my shortcomings. He’s aware of my past, my present, and my aspirations for the future. Although he might not appreciate everything he sees, he still chooses to stand by me each day, and I choose him in return.
Growth and Learning
I like to think that recognizing the disparity between expectations and reality is a sign of growth, and perhaps it is. But what I know for certain after five years of marriage is this:
We’re still learning. The journey of sharing a life with another person, who has different perspectives, annoyances, and interests, is beautifully complex. Love may not always be a smooth ride, but it is always worth the effort. This man—he’s worth the struggle. Our marriage is worth the challenges.
Each day, we improve just a little—gaining wisdom and becoming more realistic. We laugh, we argue, we love.
This is what five years of marriage looks like for us, and I would gladly do it all over again.
Here’s to the next five, and forever, my dear.
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In summary, marriage isn’t always the fairytale we might envision, but it’s a real and enriching journey filled with growth and learning.