Having spent over a decade waiting tables, I have served everything from sushi to desserts, working in establishments I adored and some I couldn’t wait to leave. While many shifts were challenging, the lessons I learned about human behavior and social dynamics have been invaluable throughout my life.
In my years of service, I have witnessed everything from emotional crises to joyous celebrations. I’ve even played the role of a confidante and a matchmaker. One recurring challenge in the restaurant industry, however, involves how parents manage their children while dining out. So, on behalf of servers everywhere, here are some essential pointers for parents.
1. Children Are Our Future: Set a Good Example
Watching how individuals behave in a restaurant is incredibly revealing. Simple gestures like making eye contact, smiling, and expressing gratitude can transform a dining experience. Unfortunately, there are times when patrons act with a sense of entitlement, making the environment feel chaotic. I’ve faced some uncomfortable situations, from being hit with menus to receiving insults from parents in front of their kids. Remember, children absorb everything. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a moment to reset rather than treating your server poorly. Show your children how to respect others through your actions.
2. A Restaurant Is Not a Playground
Many dining spaces are small and crowded, yet some parents allow their kids to run wild while servers navigate with hot food and drinks. It’s crucial to understand that servers are not responsible for watching your children. Letting them roam freely can lead to accidents. If your child struggles to sit still, consider using a high chair or engaging them with activities to keep them occupied.
3. Tipping Matters: Aim for 15% or More
Tipping is a significant aspect of dining out. I have encountered well-off customers who tip poorly, as low as 5%. This is frustrating, especially since waitstaff often rely on tips for their income. If you can’t commit to a 15% tip at a restaurant, you might want to consider dining at home or opting for fast food. For families, as children typically require more attention and cleanup, a tip of at least 20% is appropriate when dining out.
4. Keep the Table Clean
As previously mentioned, servers are not your babysitters or cleaning staff. If your child creates a mess that extends beyond standard table debris, it’s courteous to help tidy up. Imagine if I came into your workplace and allowed my child to throw food around—would that be respectful? The mess your child creates is ultimately your responsibility.
In conclusion, dining out with children can be a wonderful experience if both parents and servers work together to create a respectful environment. Remember, your actions set the tone for how your children will behave in public settings.
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