I’ve come across numerous discussions highlighting the challenges faced by individuals with invisible illnesses, particularly how others often question the legitimacy of their experiences. I’ve seen accounts of people who are dismissed when they share their deepest struggles with mental health, whether with family, friends, or professionals.
As a psychologist, I recently attended a gathering of fellow mental health practitioners, including psychologists, psychiatrists, researchers, and educators. During a presentation on a specific therapeutic approach, the speaker posed a question about how mental illness impacts individuals. Responses varied: one person noted the struggles associated with mental illness, another mentioned the significant suffering it causes, and a third asserted that those with mental illness are unable to function in society. To my dismay, everyone nodded in agreement, and the speaker affirmed this viewpoint, saying, “very good.”
My heart raced, fueled by both social anxiety and a profound sense of anger. The fact that such a statement went unchallenged reflects why “high-functioning” individuals with mental health issues often find their experiences invalidated.
I sometimes feel as though I’m crumbling inside while simply going through the motions of daily life. It’s easy to understand societal expectations of how a mentally stable person should behave. Most people can quickly describe what a “normal” routine looks like—waking up, getting dressed, handling responsibilities, eating, and sleeping—often irrespective of one’s internal struggles. While it can be incredibly challenging, it is not impossible to maintain this facade.
High-functioning individuals don’t act this way to deceive others; rather, they strive to contribute to society and combat their disorders. They work tirelessly to create a semblance of normalcy, often fearing the stigma attached to admitting their mental health struggles. When they finally muster the courage to seek help, only to be met with indifference or a lack of empathy from mental health professionals, it can be utterly disheartening.
My commitment to my career is starkly clear, but I acknowledge that I’ve been both fortunate and unfortunate to personally experience these challenges.
If you find it hard to be taken seriously, remember that you know yourself better than anyone else. No one has the right to diminish your experiences; if they do, it reflects their own limitations. Keep searching for someone who listens to you and values your feelings. It’s disheartening when a mental health professional fails to understand you, but this shortcoming lies with them, not you.
I found the courage to speak up during that presentation, albeit with a blush on my cheeks. I challenged the prevailing sentiment, expressing that dismissing the impact of mental conditions on functionality is a grave error. I emphasized that functionality can sometimes be a symptom, varying based on the individual and their specific illness. The speaker was momentarily taken aback but ultimately conceded and moved on.
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In summary, navigating the complexities of mental illness while trying to function in society can be incredibly challenging. High-functioning individuals often face skepticism and misunderstanding, but they must remember that their experiences are valid. Seeking understanding and support is crucial, even amidst societal misconceptions.