In my life, I have been fortunate to cultivate numerous friendships, but there’s one particular friend who has become my anchor in the tumultuous seas of motherhood. We crossed paths when we were both navigating the chaos of having preschoolers and infants, and since then, we’ve formed an unbreakable bond as mom BFFs.
She’s the first person I reach out to whenever my child exhibits some quirky behavior that leaves me scratching my head. Our conversations about parenting can stretch for hours, and it feels like we share a unique perspective on the world, as if we’re both wearing the same pair of motherhood goggles that tint our experiences.
We share laughter, tears, and commiseration. Without her support, my journey through motherhood would be far less fulfilling, chaotic, and rewarding. Thanks to her, I know I’m never truly alone on this path, and her unwavering solidarity means everything to me.
Finding your mom BFF can feel akin to falling in love; you just know. Here are ten indicators that you may have struck gold:
- During a harrowing parenting moment — like when your child takes a tumble down the stairs or nearly sets the house ablaze — she’s the first person you want to call to process your panic.
- Your kids adore her, feeling so comfortable around her that they start to view her as a second mother.
- You can confide in her about those days when motherhood feels overwhelming, and she gets it. She never judges you for voicing your frustrations.
- She understands that while you love being a mom, you also need occasional breaks. She’ll encourage you to step out and take time for yourself when she senses you’re on the verge of losing it.
- If you need a breather, she’ll come over to take care of your little ones, or if she’s too far away, she’s the one who can persuade you to hire a babysitter or mother’s helper.
- You both share similar parenting philosophies, allowing you to feel confident leaving your kids in each other’s care for extended periods.
- It’s never a hassle when she visits, no matter the time or day. You know she’ll pitch in with chores or entertain your kids while you take a much-needed shower, and you’ll gladly do the same for her.
- When your child says something hilariously inappropriate, you immediately text her about it — often before you even share it with your partner — because you know she’ll find it just as amusing.
- She’s privy to your kids’ secret nicknames that only you use in private (like Grumpy McGrumperson and Princess Poutyface), and you’re aware of hers.
- While your friendship is deeply rooted in motherhood, it expands into other areas of life. You know that even when your kids are grown, she’ll be the first person you call to share life’s milestones or embarrassing moments.
Mom BFFs provide the necessary support through the various stages of motherhood, reminding us that we’re not alone and that we’re capable of raising our children well. They are our pillars, cheerleaders, therapists, and partners in parenting adventures.
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In summary, recognizing your mom BFF can transform your parenting experience, providing you with the support and understanding that makes your journey enjoyable and less isolating.